Winners and Losers

About 150 onlookers watched as a grouping of large brushed bronze letters spelling out the name of our current POTUS, and authorized and installed at his direction, was literally picked out of the white Carrara marble facade (Note: Under court order) of Washington, DC’s  Kennedy Center over the weekend.

Of course, no civilians literally saw the building without those letters. 

For whatever reason (Note: Use your imagination) it all happened behind a very large scaffolding.  

Still worth visiting

Thus denying the pleasure so many millions of Americans would have gotten at viewing the restoration of that very simple and eternally elegant phrase:

The John F. Kennedy Memorial Center for the Performing Arts

As it was designated by an official act of Congress.

Envisioned and designed by architect Edward Durrell Stone in the 1960s.

And subsequently experienced by hundreds of millions of people worldwide since its doors first opened well over half a century ago.

The stories these halls could tell

In actuality, a national arts center was first suggested by First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt back in the 1930s, pushed through Congress and signed into law by Pres. Dwight D. Eisenhower in the late 1950s, and then led into fundraising existence by Pres. Kennedy and First Lady Jackie Kennedy, who championed the arts and education all through his administration in the early 1960s.

But after Pres. Kennedy was assassinated this national cultural arts center was renamed as a “living memorial” to him by its bi-partisan board of directors.  

And through bi-partisan acts of Congress and private donations, to the tune of $70 million, it was willed into existence.

Though the $1.5 million of Carrara marble was not part of the cost. 

That was donated by the Italian government specifically to honor of our slain president.

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and of course, the unforgettable bust of JFK

I asked a close friend of mine who also happens to be a production designer on a lot of movies, what happens to the inevitable cracked marble and if it could be replaced or filled in.  Because among thousands of even more important things being destroyed under 47’s rule, I worry about all this physical historical destruction and its lasting impact.

Especially since it’s easier for me to deal with the literal than with the metaphysical.

Though he couldn’t provide specific details he assured me, ‘yes’ it could be restored good as new, and that I wouldn’t be able to tell the difference, even if he and a tiny group of experts (Note: The latter my words, not his), could.

Well, at least that’s one thing off the list of our now 80-year-old contemporary Typhoid Mary’s gold leafed Era of Deconstruction.

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Not this time, old man

Though it feels more like an Age of Anti-Reconstruction.

I’m not much for iconography or symbols but there was something about the defacement and debasement of the Kennedy Center that really got me. 

Perhaps it’s because my earliest political memory was of my Dad lifting little mini-Me on his shoulders in the Bronx in 1960 to see Pres. Kennedy being driven through the boroughs of New York City on his presidential campaign to deafening cheering crowds.

The same type of crowds that assembled this week on the streets of the city outside Madison Square Garden to share in the joys of the NY Knicks’ playoff games against the San Antonio Spurs. 

NYPD sets security plan around MSG for Knicks Game 5, World Cup travel and  concert crowds | FOX 5 New York
The city that never sleeps

Whether you’re a basketball fan or not, the city became united and mesmerized by its hometown team regaining its past glories as it edged closer and closer to its first NBA title since right after the Kennedy Center first opened in the early 1970s.

Yet our current POTUS once again managed to earn the monicker of President Buzzkill by determining to fly back to his hometown, the same one that voted virulently against him in all three of his White House Runs, to attend the third playoff game.

This, in turn, required EVERYONE within the vicinity of the game who were literally jumping with joy  on the streets at the prospect of sharing in the visceral excitement of being within the vicinity of the game, to be literally banned OFF the streets to make way for HIM.

You had to know NY was gonna show up somehow

And for his Secret Service and law enforcement liaisons to cavalierly treat the tens of thousands of celebratory New Yorkers as no more than a nuisance – i.e. sacrificial collateral – to ensure HIS personal viewing pleasure.

Which would be bad enough if he had managed to fully stay awake through the proceedings instead of catching 30, 40 or 50 winks with his ass planted into one of the few prime, and very in-demand, seats.

Not that any ordinary Joe or Jane could have afforded to be inside. 

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The truth hurts

Only that it might’ve been nice to breathe in the second-hand fumes of victory from right outside.

That, of course, was not to be.

And, fittingly, that third playoff game, the one that the geriatric man whose name we shall not mention – okay, Sir Rip Van Wrinkle – was the ONLY one the NY Knicks managed to LOSE.

Fascinating that someone who sees himself as a perpetual winner seems to be generating so much loss, for so many, including himself. 

And that the moment he leaves the WINNING begins once again.

We did what we had to do

Not only for the living legacy of an American arts institution but for the hometown crowd on the streets of NYC and a small group of elite athletes who resurrected a sports franchise and once again brought New Yorkers together.

Not only did the Knicks go on to win the following 4th game at MSG, the one our Commander and Creep did not attend. 

But on Saturday night they emerged victorious in the 5th game in San Antonio, regaining the NBA championship crown for the first time in more than 50 years.

WE DID IT

To state it in simpler terms, the only playoff game they lost when the one where….

Well, you do the math.

And consider what that might mean for our country’s winning and losing stream going forward.

GO NY GO NY

Best of the Week

A 2025 wrap-up next week. 

Well, more of a good riddance to a year that the most optimistic part of most of us would categorize as…challenging.  

Because you never want to tempt fate by saying any year was the worst.

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Too much?

But as the Chair finishes his grading – and that’s what this year has done, caused me to more often than not speak about myself in the third person – here are three memorable moments to get you through the fourth week in December.

#1 – THE OUTPOURING OF LOVE FOR ROB REINER

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Our beloved Meathead

A very smart person told me years ago that when someone you love and/or admire is no longer around you want to think about the way they lived rather than the way they died.

Perhaps you’ve heard that too.  Or read it.  It’s hardly an original thought.  But one that I constantly have to remind myself of when a death that really gets to me happens.

And what really got me after the initial shock over the gruesomely awful murders of Rob Reiner and his wife, Michelle Reiner, was the outpouring of love and kindness not only worldwide, but most particularly in Hollywood, aka The Industry.

Rob Reiner's star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame is adorned with flowers as  grieving fans pay tribute to the iconic director.
Gone but never forgotten

Aside from the countless remembrances from his famous friends and not so famous fans, I’ve heard stories and heard ABOUT stories from many dozens of people RR gave a start to, was kind to, talked to or took time out to simply notice when nobody else was paying attention.

Everyone without exception thought of him as smart, funny, generous and, as my tribe likes to say, a mensch. 

A fitting tribute from his Sally

Not many so accomplished in these parts do you hear that about.

Yeah, he was “Meathead” in All in the Family.

And of course, he directed a string of memorable and varied hit films, the likes of which few can claim – This Is Spinal Tap, The Sure Thing, Stand By Me, The Princess Bride, When Harry Met Sally…, Misery, A Few Good Men and The American President -nearly eight in a row over 11 years (1984-1995).

Undeniable talent

Not to mention Castle Rock Entertainment, the production company he founded that gave us screenwriter Aaron Sorkin’s first movies and Larry David’s first TV series (Note: Um, Seinfeld).

But as memorable as it all was and is, it’s his political activism this gay man of a certain age will remember. RR and his wife stepped up for lots of causes but in particular he lead the fight to legalize gay marriage, both financially and vocally – first to stop California’s proposed 2008 ban on same sex marriage (Prop 8), and later by funding the legal fight all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court.

How Rob Reiner's Activism Advanced the Fight to Legalize Gay Marriage and  Tax the Rich
Thank you Rob

It’s easy to step up when everyone else is, or when it directly affects your well-being.  It’s more difficult, and rare, to put yourself on the front line and lead a fight with your time, money and celebrity simply because you know it’s the right thing to do.

#2 – EPISODE FIVE OF THE VIRAL QUEER ROMANCE HBO MAX TV SERIES – HEATED RIVALRY.

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This is TV

It was the gay kiss scene seen round the world and embraced by millions of gays AND straights.  But if you would’ve told teenage Chair that one day he would turn on his television set and see two hot gay guys making out to cheers in front of a crowd of millions in the middle of a hockey rink just after one of them won the fictional equivalent of the Stanley Cup he would have….

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Well…

Let’s just say it would’ve saved him a decade of woes, not to mention therapy.

But rest assured for decades to come the kiss will be featured in gay bars and pride parades everywhere for its uncomplicated message of love and acceptance.

When I was pressured into watching Heated Rivalry some weeks ago (Note: Okay, I don’t know everything) I figured that at best it was like the USA Network and Cinemax mated to birth a gay television series for Canada for a very select and mostly horny crowd.

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that’s what I’m saying!

Yikes, was I wrong.  (Note: Well, partly wrong).  And the six episode season one that prompted it to  receive a larger, multi-episode season two order is proof.

Yeah, it’s hot and romantic.  But it’s also loving and nuanced with two of the most original young female LGBTQ allies TV has ever seen fit to give us.

#3 – TWO SOCIAL MEDIA POSTS FROM THE RESISTANCE TO A TONE-DEAF, BUS & TRUCK TOTALITARIAN ADMINISTRATION.

I will let the posts/tweets speak for themselves. 

The first is from Kerry Kennedy – lawyer, author, human rights advocate and niece of the late Pres. John F. Kennedy.  Along with the rest of us, she was infuriated when the current, ahem, POTUS, this week decided to literally rig the voting system of the Kennedy Center Board and slather his name ABOVE JFK’s, proclaiming the famed arts center The Donald J. Trump and The John F. Kennedy Memorial Center for the Performing Arts.

The second is from [an impersonation of] Cher from her fans (Note: aka, Fan Fiction).  White House Press Secretary Karoline Leavitt, known to reporters on the Hill as Bullsh-t Barbie, made the unwise decision to diss Cher publicly as an irrelevant relic of the past.

Let me just say this before I give diva and her posse the closing word.

I worked with Cher on a movie years ago. 

YOU. DO. NOT. COME. FOR. HER. 

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She’s always in her Queen Era

OR HER ADORING GAZILLIONS OF FANS WHO LOOOOOVE TO IMPERSONATE HER.

SHE (AND THEY). WILL. ALWAYS. WIN. 

Especially when they’re ALL right. Here’s a sampling of a fake, but oh so seemingly real, tweet written in Cher’s voice by her adoring brood (as if there is a difference).

RULE OF THUMB:  THE ONLY THING LEFT OF THE EARTH AFTER THE NUCLEAR HOLOCAUST WILL BE TWINKIES, TITANIUM AND AN AI VERSION OF CHER. PROCEED WITH CAUTION.

Cher – “DJ Play a Christmas Song”