Notes on Timothee Chalamet: The Commencement Address

This is college graduation week around the country and I have a message to all those graduating –

Do not try to be Timothee Chalamet.  That’s already being done. 

And quite well.

Sorry everyone

I was reading a piece in Vulture the other day that he’s been cast as the young Bob Dylan in a biopic that centers on the moment in 1965 when the already-famed folk singer transitioned to superstardom legend by picking up an electric guitar at the Newport Music Festival and slaying an unsuspecting crowd.

Yes, Timothee Chalamet can sing.

And sing well.

Yeah… this works

That just sucks, right?  Is there anything he can’t do? 

Well, maybe he’s a jerk.

Not really.

Wink

A dear friend of mine was at an event a few years ago and approached TM (Note:  Even his initials personify relaxed ease.) for a selfie because her teenager daughter had a massive crush on him and the photograph would make her year.

Yes, he obliged. 

But not only that, he impishly followed it with:

 Let’s call her!

OK we love him already

At which point, the number was dialed, he got on the phone and they had a fun, cool and sassy conversation.

What’s next?  Well, he doesn’t have an Oscar.  Yet. 

That is if you don’t count the Oscar that was stolen from him for his utterly raw and original performance in Call Me By Your Name by Gary Oldman for his mumbly, blustery portrayal of some weird version of Winston Churchill in the somewhat forgettable The Darkest Hour.

But that’s only my opinion.

Which is really the point.

It’s only a matter of time

See, I recount all of this not to anoint TM as any kind of creative Messiah, modern day personal deity, or even an individual incapable of having a bad day and being a jerk. 

I mean, given the demands of being an A-list actor, he likely is not ideal relationship material  (Note: Don’t worry, I have no stories).

Instead, I merely bring it up to state that the only way to happiness and success is:

You do you.

Exactly!

It may sound snide and corny but, sadly, so are a lot of phrases that are… true.

Something else:

Don’t worry about how well Timmy or any of your other more successful than you friends and peers are doing.

It’s not a race, despite all appearances to the contrary in everything you see, hear and read.

We Americans in particular, and I unfortunately count myself among them, can’t resist a good competition.  And we loooooove a scoreboard.  Because it means in those moments we are out in front, everyone else is a looooooooooser.

and you’re a star!

But if you subscribe to that kind of logic the reverse is true.  You’re a loser the moment you’re not in the #1 position out in front. 

Which, if you consider all of the categories in life under which you could be rated, is most of the time.

The real task now is what do you do with the time at hand?  Well —

What do you like to do?  What are you good at?  Who do you want to be around?  Who makes you laugh?  What do you want to get better at?  Who believes in you when you don’t believe in yourself?  And —

Who is smarter, more talented or simply wiser than you? 

Chain smoking teen reading Howard Zinn?

Go find those people, in whatever form they are available to you, and figure out what you can learn from them.  Ask them questions, if possible.  Better yet, ask yourself questions and then try to figure out the answers.

And here’s a hint:  You likely won’t find the answers sitting alone in your room.

No one, not anyone, does life alone.  That’s not the way it works.  You need a core group of those you can trust, learn from and be your nutty self with.  That’s how you get ahead and that’s how you discover and hone your talents.

You know… like this

I was watching Rainn Wilson, the Emmy award nominated actor from The Office, being interviewed while promoting his Peacock documentary series, Rainn Wilson and the Geography of Bliss.

Admitting he suffers from lifelong anxiety and depression that has taken him down some dark roads, the effort takes him around the world seeking to figure out the answer to happiness.

Spoiler alert:  There is none.

I imagine this was also part of their discussion

But the one thing he noted that happy people have in common are that they are part of a community.

Yes, I rolled my eyes too. And I’m many decades past graduation.  Until I realized that community doesn’t necessarily mean being a member of a church, community organization, political party or even your traditional family.

What it means is compiling your own group that helps to support you, advise you, tell you the truth, see you and yeah, love you. 

Slow teardrop. (Note: Snide).

OK but real tears too!

And know, none of this has to be said.  You just feel it.  (Note: Corny).

That’s the road to dealing with the world and achieving what you want.  Which is not the necessarily the same thing as what you think it is right now. 

Though it could be.

Yeah, you’re gonna make a ton of mistakes.  You will hurt people you don’t mean to and be a real asshole to them and others at times. 

Mistakes of all kinds are inevitable, messy and…welcome.   Don’t beat yourself up for them.   

Just do better.  

…and enjoy your good hair

Your crap and the crap will never end but neither does the good stuff.  Focus on the latter and keep moving forward.

And please floss.

Timothee Chalamet – “Everything Happens to Me”

The Circle of Strike

Nothing cheered me more than when a small group of my Thesis TV writing students, on their own, joined the Writers Guild of America picket lines one morning this week across the street from our classroom.

Marching shoulder to shoulder with the professional scribes they aspire to be, they understood they were fighting for the preservation of the writing profession in television and film, as we know it and as they hope it will still be by the time they get hired.

WGA is Gorges! #ICwriters

Of course, this didn’t happen in a vacuum. 

The night before, for their last class of the semester at the Ithaca College Los Angeles Program, I invited two working TV writer-producers, who also happen to be former students that sat exactly where they did 10 or so years ago, to hang out and give them advice, assurance and a reality check on what it takes to persevere and have a career.

Writers being who they are, regardless of age, the discussion was alternately funny, brutally honest and incredibly thorough.  It smartly told you everything you needed to know, and then some.

I mean, let’s face it, give people who are hired to speak to the page in words instead of out loud a stage and, well, it’s hard to shut us up.  Especially when we have a captive (Note: and younger) audience.

It’s the best!

Nevertheless, it felt like there was a real meeting of the minds with this group and their elders, both of whom are still significantly younger than The Chair. (Note:  don’t even ask).

Three generations of writers with many of the same questions and stories about process, money, anxiety and creativity.  We were all so different yet undeniably and incredibly similar.

The deep down belief in one’s talent bundled with the sneaky self-doubt.  The humor covering the sensitivity, or the angst masking the hysteria of the insult lines we’d never have the nerve to speak.  The eagerness to be heard and the desperate desire to tune out those who refuse to see us, or will never understand us, or simply piss us off.

Nothing has changed at all.

We’ve all been there

It reminded me of that moment in the eighties when I was lucky enough to meet the great screenwriter Julius Epstein, who along with his brother wrote a little classic film we call Casablanca. 

It was at a party held by a writing mentor friend of mine that Mr. Epstein, then well into his eighties, was deliciously delightful and brutally honest.

To paraphrase his thoughts about studio notes on his most famous film:

Do you think they had any idea what it was about or any suggestions that made any sense?  No!!  Just nod along and pretend that they do.  Then go off and do what you want.  Idiots!

Honestly, I don’t even think I’m embellishing.

Just keep spinning

Several years later, when I attended a big meeting at the WGA Theatre in Beverly Hills around the time the guild was about to strike over DVD residuals, among many other issues, former WGA president Frank Pierson, by then a veteran writer-director, had pretty much the same message.   However, he made it in a pointed, much more public statement to an entire auditorium of writers.

His rebuttal to those afraid of striking for what they deserved was something akin to:  How do you think the union came about?  This is what we HAVE to do.  If we didn’t do it we wouldn’t even have what we have now.  If it were up to them, we’d have nothing.

And know the only reason I am not giving Mr. Pierson’s dialogue its own paragraph is that I am 100% sure his words were more laceratingly surgical and eloquent than I could ever be.

Yet, message-wise, they’re the same.  And I passed it along to my students, all of whom were also astounded to learn that before the fifties not only were there no residuals or any share of any profits, but that you could be forced to share credit with a producer’s nephew who never wrote a word of your script if the studio so desired.

Truly the Wild West

Because of these men, and many thousands of other women and men like them, writers who are fortunate enough to land a job telling stories in film and TV make a really good living. 

They realized it was their stories that were reaching millions of people and raking in hundreds of millions in profit for their employers, and that it was more than fair that they be compensated in ways that were commensurate to their very essential contribution.

What Mr. Epstein and Mr. Pierson, in particular, were saying, in their own inimitable ways, is that you have to stand up for yourself, especially when it’s tough.

They were also telling us that rather than think of the people that do the same job as you do as your competition, see them as your teammates.

And for that matter, think of any member of an entertainment union as a comrade.

Solidarity Forever!

That’s what the message was from Lindsey Dougherty, the tattooed secretary-treasurer or Teamsters Local 399, a few weeks ago to several thousand writers assembled at the Shrine Auditorium in support of the 2023 strike.

If we all want to get what’s ours, we are going to have to fight for it tooth and nail. If you throw up a picket line, those f—n trucks will stop, I promise you.

It was not always the case that entertainment workers above and below the line, or any industry workers for that matter, were this united.  But recent advances in technology have shaken up the business (Note: and many other businesses) and significantly changed the means of access and distribution all across the board.

Not to mention the rise of a new brand of knee-jerk nationalistic fascism that has seemingly caused every human roach to crawl out from every venomous rock they were hiding under throughout the world.  They unite the rest of us, too. 

Um… yikes!

Yes, there are specific issues for currently striking writers.  Among them are:

– The producers/studios/streaming platforms refusal to negotiate on the future of AI , e.g. using AI as a way to eliminate, or at least curtail, the future employment of writers. 

– The unwillingness of streamers, in particular, to come up with a realistic formula for calculating residuals to writers, and other creatives like actors and directors, that properly assesses the explosion of streaming revenue compared to what it was just five years ago.

– The determination of producers and studio heads to cut writing staffs in half or more on all of their series by using new technology and new distribution patterns as a way of turning writing into a gig profession of day-player free-lancers or cut rate full-time employees.

– A flat out “no” from all of the aforementioned when asked to address decades-long ongoing issues like multiple free rewrites for feature writers, citing the excuse of team spirit, or allowing animation writers across the board entry into the writer’s guild to which they have unjustly been denied because of a century old, outdated, industry categorization spear-headed by none other than the late, and very long dead, Walt Disney.

No doubt haunting us from his mansion!

The root of most of these issues, e.g. the changing ways we watch TV and film, will cut across the board to every member of every union when their contracts inevitably expire (Note: The DGA and SAG next month).  Prolific actor Seth Rogen, known for also being a stoner but on this subject quite coherent, recently put it in starkly simple terms.

I’m personally distressed by not having any sense of how successful these shows and movies we make for streaming services are. The secretiveness only makes me think that they’re making way more money off of all of us than they want to share with anybody. These executives are making insane salaries that you would only make if you are running an incredibly profitable business.

If there is one thing that Gen Z understands and wants is for others to be authentic and real, especially with them.  You might think they’re glued to their phones but that’s a meme about who they are from another generation’s mind. 

Don’t underestimate Gen Z!

In fact, they are actually listening and watching US.  And they will strike accordingly when they don’t like what they see and hear.

That’s why my students voluntarily took to the streets when two writers took the time to speak with them in person and asked them to join in the fight to protect the future they hoped to have.

And why many more will follow in a worldwide, multi-generational battle against corporate greed, nee fascism, all across-the-board…and win.

The Lion King – “Circle of Life”