The Golden Age

I suppose we’re all expected to just pretend our POTUS is not having trouble staying awake at daises, televised meetings and foreign trips.

That he is not literally falling asleep on camera, the latter being passed off as resting his eyes even though we see it happening in real time right before our eyes.

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You know.. this

Watching a handful of five minute segments here and there of the White House Correspondents Dinner this weekend I saw the heavy-lidded eye shutting at least three times and marveled at how everyone around him treated this like business as usual.

Which one can only suppose it is.  Or has become.

It reminded me of when I was a kid and begged to stay up really late to watch a TV show, only to fall asleep during it and then deny I was sleeping because I wanted to still be where the action was.

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Don’t judge me!

No one wants to be told to go to bed but it’s every adult in the room’s obligation to recognize when someone is literally not able to function.

Anyone with an aging or old parent understands the drill.  And those who’ve had to bury an elderly mother and/or father know this even better.

There comes a time when it’s up to those sharp, responsible and mature enough to step in with a reality check. 

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The President posted this on Truth Social. I think the time to step in has passed.

Sometimes this means relieving a person of their car keys. Or relieving them of some duties.  Or hiring a full-time caretaker.  Or doing something else to guarantee their safety and your piece of mind.

Or even your safety.

I was reading The New York Times on Saturday and there was an article about legendary baby boomer actress Debra Winger, she of three Oscar nominations, hit movies and brilliant but wild reputation, and her husband, veteran character actor Arliss Howard, starring in a downtown Manhattan production of….

The Gin Game.

Deal me in

For those who don’t know or don’t remember, the play is famously about two old people in a retirement home who play cards and drive each other crazy.  It originally starred another real-life, long married couple, Hume Cronyn and Jessica Tandy.

Ms. Tandy, an Oscar winner for playing that VERY old lady in Driving Miss Daisy, also won Broadway’s Tony award for playing merely an old lady in The Gin Game 10 years earlier.

Being a baby boomer myself, it surprised me that Jessica Tandy was only (Note: Only!!!) 68 years old when she did that play, and her husband was a positively youthful 66 years old.

While both Debra Winger and Arliss Howard are each now….71 years old.

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Seriously?

Yes.  They are 3-5 years OLDER than what was thought to be the OLD two-person cast (Note: Mr. Tandy and Mr. Cronin had big careers playing old codgers and being old codgers) of the original Broadway production of a play about old people playing cards.

Of course, it’s about a lot more than that. 

But as Ms. Winger admits in her interview, she thought of Gin Game as something I wouldn’t go see, for whatever reason.  Just not my cup of tea.

Well, we know what type of tea and we know the reason. 

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This blog is a place of peace

And I never went to see it, or read it, for that very same tea and that exact same reason.

But once she realized the character was exactly her age and her husband’s age, it instantly became relevant.  Even more so after they read it and realized some of the below the surface, darker issues the “senior citizen” characters in the play deal with, were more than personally identifiable.

Of course, dedicated, successful career actors like to delve, regardless of the age or level of “attractiveness” of the part. And they make a darn good living at it. 

Career politicos and the politicians they deal with, tend to avoid that kind of thing like the plague.  Especially these days.

Cartoonist's take: 'The Political Gerontocracy' – Daily Freeman
OK Grandpa

And, okay, they’re not alone. 

I was always the ‘youngest’ in my gatherings of friend/peer groups.  But what this means is that all of the people in my groups that I’ve known the longest are all in their seventies, and sometimes their eighties. 

Yes, it’s true.

I’m right behind them but not all that far behind.  And we’re all still “functioning.”  But I don’t know there’s any among us I’d consider for the 24/7 job of…leader of the free world. 

Though each and every one of us are a better choice than the fella that’s there now.

Irregardless of politics.

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I would take a sentient post it note at this point

I’m pretty sharp and I’ve never fallen asleep on a dais.  Though God knows I’ve wanted to.

Still, sometimes, when I’ve gone to a room upstairs in my house, I can’t always exactly remember what I need there. 

Or other times, I’m trying to think of an actor or actress and I know their first name, can see their face and tell you a ton about them.  But for the life of me can’t remember their last name.

Last week it was Christine EBERSOLE, who I loved in the Broadway musical Grey Gardens.  I had Baranski, Lahti and Hendricks but couldn’t get to f’n Ebersole.

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Forgive me Christine!

Worse was a week before that.  Matt Bomer came to mind and for about half an hour all I could think of was Matt and his baby blues.  Though soon it did all kick in.

I guess when you think real hard you can still remember what’s most important to you.

This picture of Matt Bomer is important to me

Which could be an explanation for an Oval Office that is literally exploding at the seams with enough gilded gold to choke an army full of Saddam Hussein imitators. 

Honestly, take a look.

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Garish would be an improvement

Impressive if you were forming twelve tribute bands to a dethroned Middle East dictator and needed a backdrop.

But not a rational backdrop for the leading democracy on the globe.

Or any rational person tasked with leading it.

Jennifer Hudson – “Golden Slumbers” (SING soundtrack)

Progressive… ish

This week marked the opening of The Obama Presidential Center.  Rather than merely a facility to store and view the best and brightest moments of the eight-year Barack Obama presidency, it is very much something else.

We’ll start with eye catching!

Part museum, part community campus, part city park complete with a basketball court and barbecue grilling stations, along with vegetable gardens, walkways, a physical to-scale recreation of the Oval Office, as well as a destination, state-of-the-art, neighborhood gathering place housing numerous educational programs, classes and activities for people of all ages.

No, this is not a plug for the president or First Lady Michelle Obama, or the Center.

… though you can always get a picture with them

Even though the place seems quite impressive and cool to me.

And the former First Couple are, in my opinion, well, let’s just say sorely missed.

A wild understatement

Rather it is me urging everyone to take a look at two things:

The first is the ambition of what they are trying to create – something innately and historically American because it is a bit new and ingenious.

As was stated numerous times at its inaugural ceremonies on Friday, the building and grounds is not primarily a gauzy, nostalgic look-back at the Obama years. 

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OK but can we look back at how adorable this family is/was???!

Instead it is an attempt to revitalize the First Lady’s hometown neighborhood on the south side of Chicago (Note: And his adopted one) by providing it with one of the largest, functional and certainly most expensive community centers in the country. 

A place that fosters education, teaches history (note: the successes as well as the failures of the O years), and encourages reflection. 

While at the same time giving the average local or far-away international tourist a fun place to hang out.

An out-of-the-box stab at something different.

That, in itself, serves as a more than apt metaphor and representation of what the Obamas and his presidency meant for the country at the time he was elected.

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But as impressive as all of this is, it was the theme and tenor of the former president’s remarks on opening day that really got to me, and got me thinking.

No, I will not be summarizing the speech or breaking it down.  You can watch it yourself here:   

Or better yet read the transcript of what he said here.

Rather it was his reminder to the crowd, and the worldwide audience no-doubt watching, that brings me to my second point.

Which is that despite the insanity currently happening, both in the country and within the now vomitous gold gilded Oval Office (Note: My words, he was far more polite), the 250 year history of the United States has always been a constant back and forth swing between freedom vs. repression, equality vs. racism  and the upper ruling class vs. the “poor.” (Note: I put “poor” in  quotes since 99% plus of us would be considered peons if we use present-day wealth disparities as the measure that determined who really ruled who).

Not to mention a perpetual fight for rights and non-discrimination by the many, and frankly countless, diverse minority groups comprising the essential tapestry fabric that is truly “America.”

What does it mean to be a country whose very founding was based on the tapestry principle (Note: Carole King excepted)?

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OK but do listen to this album after you finish reading.

That despite all of our many faults we are still the only place in the world where you STILL AUTOMATICALLY AND LEGALLY become one of us, i.e. AMERICAN, because you live here.

As a child of immigrant grandparents, who grew up in a neighborhood of immigrants in the most immigrant populous and racially mixed U.S. city in the country during the most progressive decade in U.S. history (Note: NYC in the 1960s. And it didn’t seem so special at the time) I took all the mix and match cultural stuff sort of for granted.

But as an adult the reality of who we also are on the other side of big city inclusion has come crashingly into focus in too many unexpected and frankly, for me, unimaginable ways.

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It ain’t rainbows, my friend.

So when Pres. Obama got to the part of his speech were he spoke of the radical nature of our Founding Fathers for creating the FIRST country not ruled by kings and lords and the strong dominating the weak – aka “the many ruled by the few” it gave me pause. 

Especially when he pointed out that despite their writing a Declaration of Independence of “inalienable rights” every person in the country possessed, these were men who also left “slavery intact” while restricting voting to “white men who owned property.”

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Checking my notes on Hamilton…

Therein laid one of many contradictions that is and always has been these United States.  A group of men with “the genius to provide us with a framework that allows each generation to make our union more (Note: Or less) perfect.”

As he recounted the pushing and pulling in each direction over more than two centuries (Note: See the above speech link) I was particularly taken with a quote from a Boston minister (Note: Usually attributed to Dr. Martin Luther King) during the Civil War era. 

This was a time when slaves would escape to the freedom of northern states only to be legally captured, shackled in chains and dragged, or sailed by ship, back down south.  And once again become mere property of their masters with nothing approaching inalienable rights of life, liberty and happiness.

I do not present to understand the moral universe,’ said Reverend Theodore Parker, one of the leading slave abolitionists from Boston at the time.  “..The arc is a long one… I cannot calculate the curve…by sight…. But from what I see, I am sure it bends towards justice.”

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Ok but how long?

Point being, that despite a lot of evidence to the contrary, namely the case of a young Boston man who had just been seized and hauled away by hundreds of armed officers back into slavery, Rev. Parker had lived and experienced enough in the country to know that in the long run this would never hold and that… eventually… justice would prevail.

I wanted to chalk this up to just another inspirational, glass half-filled Obama speech until that night, while cleaning out some of the physical files in my home office I came upon a news clipping from the N.Y. Post from 1964 my mother had saved.  It was about my third grade elementary school class and I hadn’t looked at in years. 

You might not be able to make out the wording in this copy, but here’s the first paragraph:

When the sun hits the windows in class 3-303 at P.S. 86 it is filtered through the blue cardboard tulips and orange paper daisies pasted to the panes.  In that mixture of gold, blue and orange sits Efrain, the lone Puerto Rican in the class.  Four other transfer students, all Negroes, are scattered through the room.  And there are 29 white students…

Truth be told, I had no idea we were one of the first forced busing, integrated schools in the state. 

Nor did I have any idea Efrain was Puerto Rican.  I just knew his skin had a slightly bronzed tint and the straight brownish blonde hair of the time that I had always wanted (Note: Yes, even then).

But I do remember him, as the last paragraph of the article states, at the blackboard. 

And the adjacent window covered in blue construction paper and orange daisies  

Where he quickly added up a series of numbers much faster than any of the rest of us could.

As for the four “Negro” kids, it never occurred to me that this was unusual.  I didn’t really think about it.  And strange as it might seem to you now, few, if any, of the rest of us did.

That WAS America in that moment in time. 

For me.

And my friends.

And I suspect it will be again.

Or at least, can be.

Bruce Springsteen – “Land of Hope and Dreams”