Another Day in the Neighborhood

All sorts of things happened in the news in the last few weeks.

In my birthplace – Bronx, NY – ICE agents shot a Dominican man from point blank range in the driver’s seat of his car while his five-year-old son watched from the backseat.

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Mamdani: “I will not stand by while ICE agents terrorize our communities.”

Mark Dec. 3 on your calendar because on that day there will be a livestream military execution by firing squad of a mass shooter courtesy of former Fox weekend host  and current U.S. Department of Defense War Secretary Pete Hegseth, who hyped the event as a “no brainer” so people “understand there are serious consequences for this type of thing.”

And at a political campaign rally in Nebraska, our sitting POTUS claimed his war with Iran was about keeping our country safe,  noting “they can take out a city,” and then suggesting without a beat that, “They can take out Los Angeles.  Let them take out San Diego.”

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I know I didn’t hear that right!

That’s a lot of violence, a lot of guns and a lot of faux flex that reads insane when it’s meant to register strong.

No wonder so many rich celebrities are leaving town for Europe.

Bye Ellen. Bye Aaron Paul. 

George Clooney, we said bye years ago.  (Note: That was years before you wrote that Joe Biden-must-go editorial, right?).

Bye Rosie, even though you are here to visit.

Looking absolutely fab as the narrator for Rocky Horror

So long Richard Gere, Eva Longoria, Robin Wright, Courtney Love, James Cameron, Lena Dunham, Pam Anderson and Janet Jackson.

It’s not a value judgment. Mostly.  I get it.

Though I do sometimes wonder how it is that the great, and Ohio-born, Timothy Snyder writes a brilliant book called On Tyranny, a sort of primer on what happens when a would-be authoritarian tries to take over a country and what to do in order to stop it, left in the middle of all this to move to Canada.

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I mean I get it!

Well, I suppose it’s not easy to have that much of a public target on your back.

Said this gay, Jewish, blue-city-living Los Angeleno.

Who is staying put to the bitter end in these United States.

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I know who we are

Even though both sets of my grandparents left Poland, Russia and Hungary back in the early and mid-twentieth centuries when they felt their countries of origin might no longer be safe for them.

I guess I’ve always done best when I’ve been pissed off at someone or something.

Observed this writer, blogger big mouth, college professor at a liberal arts school whose home campus was just voted the top most welcoming college to LGBTQ+ students on the east coast.

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Come at me

As a mentor of mine once commented when I momentarily hesitated writing truthfully about my family in a screenplay years ago,

In for a penny, in for a pound.

And boy, was she right.  Because in the end you have to stand your ground and fight for something, especially when the battle is still winnable.

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My mentor… and Sally Field of course

I’m not a particularly courageous person.  In fact, I’m pretty much a coward.  And I detest violence in real life. 

Except for that one time in the early nineties.

AIDS was still raging and I almost got into a fist fight with a gay Republican who furiously cornered the late gay hero Randy Shilts, author And The Band Played On, the seminal story of that pandemic, at a gay political event.

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It was about to get real

Right after Randy picked up his heroism award, this mofo relentlessly chastised him for having the temerity to publicly insult Ronald Reagan in his acceptance speech for idly sitting by on his ass and not doing more to save the lives of thousands of our friends, among others, who were literally dying in the streets.

It took three people to hold me back from decking him (Note: The only and only time I raised my fists to anyone) and the calm words of my boyfriend (Note: Now husband) to talk me down mid-lunge as I was cursing him out.

See, one of my dearest friends was in a New York City hospital dying at the time so I was in no mood for lies and bullsh-t and platitudes.

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My brain during this encounter

Of course, this is not the type of fighting or courage I am advocating for at the moment.

But what I am advocating for is the rage.

At the injustice, the racism, the barbarism and the lies being served to the American public like endless portions of Soylent Green we are required to eat up each day of the week. (Note: Look it up here)

That might be tempting when food is so expensive, but it will only poison us all in the end.

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Don’t make me seriously consider

What we need to do is to not lose heart and channel those feelings to the ballot box.

Meaning VOTE.

If millions of us refuse to be cowed by a poison that demands we literally swallow each other whole and accept the status quo, or worse, I am convinced we will make it through this chapter of the American hunger games.

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As much as I’d enjoy these looks

Because we will drastically outnumber all of those in the minority so determined to cheat us out of our values and value.

And if they still try to do it, or attempt any other funny business?

Well, there are plenty of other bold and brave strategies to employ.

But you can’t take to the streets if you no longer live here.

Jason Mraz – “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?” + “Frank D. Fixer”

2025: As It Was

Of course, every day of life is a gift. 

That becomes apparent once people your age start dying or you are personally touched by tragedy at too young an age. 

Or any age.

And who am I to argue with the idea that the meaning of life is to find your gift and show it to the world?

and I will!

Well, I could argue that. 

What if your particular gift is lying, cheating and generally wreaking havoc on the world, which in turn inspires others to do so and destroy it as we know it?

You see where this could be going.

If I let it.

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Mr. Whatsit is here to help

I should’ve known 2025 wasn’t going to be “all that” when at the end of its first week my cell phone started audibly blaring with warnings from the city of L.A. to evacuate my home because a nearby canyon suddenly went up in flames.

Of course, I already knew that.  My sister warned me five minutes earlier, my shrink had just called to warn me (Note: Yes, he knows where I live) and the TV happened to be on with footage of planes and helicopters dropping uncountable gallons of water all over the neighborhood.

Never a good sign.

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It’s hard to even imagine this really happened

Of course, my husband and I were lucky, so this day was, indeed, a gift. Our house survived and so did we.  Not so lucky were the hundreds of homes and people in other neighborhoods that didn’t make it.

Not much of a gift for them. 

I mention all this not to recount my worst day in 2025 or to prove that this year was cursed from the beginning and would prove to be so for anyone truly sane.

Instead, I bring it up to offer there is another way to look at it.

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brb getting out my second pair of glasses

Everyone reading this, and the billions more with the ability to still read it, survived and were gifted at least one more day. 

Probably more.

The question is, what we’ll do with them.

Just know, I HATE this kind of sentiment. 

These bromides of positivity.  This glass half-full sort of thinking.

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Don’t come to me with this!

But there was a time when I was convinced I also hated Brussel sprouts until Ina Garten instructed me how to douse them with olive oil, kosher salt and pepper and roast them in the oven at 400 degrees for about 30-35 minutes.  Since then they have become the house vegetable, sometimes with balsamic glaze and other times simply with fresh parsley and some additional sea salt.

Allowing me to know that even if everything else was shitty that day, at the very least I succeeded at not only eating my vegetables but actually enjoying them.

Which is more than I ever did during my first 25 five years of “gifted” existence. #SoMuchMoreHealthSoManyMoreGiftsToLive

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Way to go Chairy!

There is no point in us recapping the many disasters of 2025.  The school shootings, the affordability crisis, the cold-blooded murder of well known public figures, along with so many non-famous people who also have friends, families, loved one and talents, nee gifts.

And never mind the grifting of money from the unfortunate or unknowing, the worldwide bending (Note: though not breaking) to authoritarianism, the ravages of international war or the demonization of immigrants, nee anyone not white and Christian.

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And here she comes again

For a married gay guy with a very Jewish last name like myself, whose grandparents on both sides were immigrants, this is especially troubling. Even more so because I actually know and like not only Muslims and Somalis but non-whites of all sorts of colors from all over the world.

Going to one of the first mandatory integrated elementary schools in New York City in the sixties will do that to you.  As will growing up in most urban cities.  As will growing up anywhere and having parents who aren’t racists.

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This

Everyone gets treated exactly the same way.  Including the whitest of Christians.

That didn’t seem exactly progressive to me back then but I never would have predicted the world we have all been gifted for at least another day.

And yes, probably more.

That said, 2025 did have a few cool things. 

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Let’s get to the cool thing!

My favorite film was One Battle After Another, Paul Thomas Anderson’s brilliant black comedy/drama treatment of the times. I also thought Sinners was pretty damn good, as was a small indie film called The History of Sound.

On television, Netflix early in the year gave us the gift of the limited series, Adolescence, and wrapped up the year with a wonderful final season (Note: One more episode to go!) of Stranger Things. HBO Max started out the year with a riveting new show, The Pitt and ended it with the LGBTQ+ series I could have only dreamed of as a kid but never would have, that viral sensation known as Heated Rivalry.

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Oh God am I a hockey fan now?

Now if only both companies would stop gobbling up other companies. Or selling out to other companies, or billionaires, or beefy politicians, and the entire planet would be a better place.

This entirely circumvents the subject of A.I. because seriously, I can’t right now…

Instead, let’s consider at least one happy couple who were gifted overtime in 2025 – Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce.  They’d better at least be happy in real life.

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This has to be endgame. Please God.

As should the new mayor of NYC – Zohran Mamdani.  He’s got great ideas for my hometown AND he’s Muslim.  Imagine that!  Well, I can.  As can my very Jewish blood brother Mandy Patinkin, who can be seen here, with his wife, actress Kathryn Grody, making potato latkes with him.

It could be our new slogan for 2026.

Break Bread, Not Heads.

And yes, I know latkes are technically made with matzo meal, not bread.  Just think of it as a starting point. 

And a gift.

Duke Ellington – Auld Lang Syne