Mariska, Emmys, and the Love of Screens

There’s nothing about Mariska Hargitay that doesn’t make me happy so I can’t be objective. 

But in every way possible she was the perfect host for Monday night’s 78th annual Emmy Awards.

All 13 of Mariska Hargitay's Emmys Looks — Including 1 That Honors Mom  Jayne Mansfield
Perfect host… perfect wigs

Awards shows these days are a mixed bag of… a lot. 

A lot of excellence, a lot of earnestness, a lot of self-aggrandizement and self-importance, and a lot of guilty and guiltless (Note: depending on who you are) fun and glamour.

Or simple disgust at the indulgent spectacle of it all.

It becomes difficult spending time dissecting who deserved what and how swiftly the show moved, or if evenings like this should even exist, when every day we’re being told humanity as we know it could be murdered by the end of the decade by rogue A.I. bots that, in less than a year, will at the very least be able to take over the internet and do things like freeze everyone’s bank accounts and launch their own drone attacks at will.

Why 'This Is Fine' Is the Meme This Year Deserves - The New York Times
Totally normal stuff here, move along

At least that was the latest of what I read and heard in the last few days from the experts working on this stuff.

So you will excuse me if I confess that Mariska (Note: I feel as if we’re friends), aka Olivia Benson, the bad ass cop she’s played on Law and Order: SVU for 28 seasons, gives me comfort.

Especially in nearly a dozen pitch perfect designer outfits and amid lots of big shiny gold stuff on pedestals that have nothing to do with the Oval Office.

Law & Order: SVU's Mariska Hargitay twins with daughter Amaya in must-see  sequin dress for Emmys appearance — photos
And a winner herself!

See, even when Mariska’s Olivia is not able to stop the bad things and the bad people, she makes you feel better about life and about yourself by being fully present when you’re with her. 

Positive, alive and hopeful.

Of course, I’m talking mostly about Olivia and not from personal experience with Mariska.

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Olivia forever!

But when an actor plays a character a lot of their qualities become one, especially the good stuff. 

So after watching this year’s Emmy-winning documentary Mariska directed, produced and starred in, My Mom, Jane, about long deceased Hollywood actress Jayne Mansfield, the mother she barely knew, it’s hard not to see the best of Benson each time she’s onscreen.

Not to mention, that’s what the people I know who’ve spoken to and worked with her say. 

The fact that we get her to guide us through yet one more awards show, well I say, let’s just… take the win?

Mariska Hargitay & Taylor Swift's Beloved Nickname Is Back After Knicks  Game Reunion
Much like her beloved Knicks!

Was it bizarre to see her jamming, singing and dancing in various locations and with various stars, among them her buddy, Knicks superstar, Jalen Brunson, in the opening number, I Love TV Screens, done to the tune of the classic, I Love Rock ‘n Roll?

You bet it was. 

But, she sold it.  Even when it ended with her entering the theatre on a horse and being lifted in the air by a bunch of men with TV sets instead of heads.

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And her fans ate it up

I LOVED it and thought, well, at least she’s game.  My husband, who actually is the one who spoke to Mariska on the phone and liked her a lot, thought, more than anything, it was “brave.”

Well, we need a little bravery right about now. 

In so many things. 

Don’t we?

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Ok Carol we’re trying!

The award winners had a large smattering of brave, too.  The new Apple comedy series, Widow’s Bay, a very strange send-up of a seaside supernatural thriller packaged as a kind of post-modern sitcom, led the pack with 14 wins, including best comedy, actor and supporting actor and actress, as well as writing and directing.

Though Jean Smart became the first leading comedy actress to win the Emmy for every season (five) of her series (Hacks) and tied the all-time record for most wins by a female performer with her eighth award.

Emmys 2026: Jean Smart makes history with five consecutive wins for Hacks
Love her, love the 80s fashion

On the drama side, The Pitt continued its reign as best drama as well as lead actor for Noah Wyle.  But writer Vince Gilligan won the writing award for his highly original, and in my mind brilliant, pilot script for the intellectually apocalyptic Pluribus, and its star Rhea Seehorn scored best actress. There was also the first major category win for Slow Horses in directing, and limited series went to the dark comedy/tragedy DTF St. Lous. 

Sally Field, who started her career in light TV comedy only to become a leading Oscar-winning dramatic actress, won for a heartfelt performance as an older woman who helps a grieving young man and an octopus in the unusual and touching streaming telefilm, Remarkably Bright Creatures.

Sally Field on Career, Mrs. Doubtfire, Remarkably Bright Creatures
I want to be Sally’s Octopus friend

So, yes, a mix of oddball, traditional and sort of…strange.

And who says the Emmys do not reflect the current world we live in?

As for the show itself, it was also a mash-up of old and new, weird and welcome, current and frozen in time. 

But this, in turn, reflects the expansion of television thanks to streaming, the internet and technology.  No longer do you need to appeal to a wide group.  You can stay on the air with a niche market of viewers who you don’t have to convince to buy a particular brand of car or cleanser.

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If you know, you know

Where else can you see the cast of Fox’s upcoming reboot of Baywatch (Note: Who asked for that???), alongside a moving, heartfelt speech by Michael J. Fox, now in a wheelchair, wittily accepting the Bob Hope Humanitarian Award for the foundation he started supporting Parkinson’s disease research, the reunion of three of the four sort of frozen-in-time stars of Charlie’s Angels (Note: 1976-1981), and the late Catherine O’Hara’s three film and TV kids (Home Alone’s Macauley Culkin, and Dan Levy and Annie Murphy from Schitt’s Creek) saluting her, amid an In Memoriam segment of those who passed away in the last year, as Noah Kahan sang Simon and Garfunkel’s Bridge Over Troubled Water and Jamie Lee Curtis eulogized Rob Reiner? 

Jamie Lee Curtis breaks down in tears honoring Rob Reiner during Emmys 2026  in memoriam
The way that I wept!

Wait, I left out the Dolly Parton song Reba McEntire sang in tribute to Dolly Parton, Appalachian Memories, the free speech declaration made by Stephen Colbert for his now defunct insurgent talk show yanked off the air by CBS and that pre-filmed cameo by Taylor Swift as a new cop on the set of SVU with its current core cast, which ended with her holding one of her cats that, in real life, she named Olivia Benson.

None of it quite makes sense or has universal appeal.  But at this moment that’s the case with not only TV, but the universe.

Zendaya Is Pure Elegance in a Crystal-Covered Gown at the 2026 Emmy Awards
But god did Zendaya look good

So the fact we had Mariska popping up periodically, bejeweled or joking or staring us down in buoyant sincerity seemed about as impeccable of a respite one could get in the outlandish surrealness of our uncertain new world.

At least until…well, you know.

Click for a complete list of Emmy winners.

Mariska Hargitay – “I Love TV Screens”

2025: As It Was

Of course, every day of life is a gift. 

That becomes apparent once people your age start dying or you are personally touched by tragedy at too young an age. 

Or any age.

And who am I to argue with the idea that the meaning of life is to find your gift and show it to the world?

and I will!

Well, I could argue that. 

What if your particular gift is lying, cheating and generally wreaking havoc on the world, which in turn inspires others to do so and destroy it as we know it?

You see where this could be going.

If I let it.

Everything We Know About Henry Creel's Origin Before the Stranger Things  Finale (Including the Stage Play) - ComicBook.com
Mr. Whatsit is here to help

I should’ve known 2025 wasn’t going to be “all that” when at the end of its first week my cell phone started audibly blaring with warnings from the city of L.A. to evacuate my home because a nearby canyon suddenly went up in flames.

Of course, I already knew that.  My sister warned me five minutes earlier, my shrink had just called to warn me (Note: Yes, he knows where I live) and the TV happened to be on with footage of planes and helicopters dropping uncountable gallons of water all over the neighborhood.

Never a good sign.

The role of climate change in the catastrophic 2025 Los Angeles fires »  Yale Climate Connections
It’s hard to even imagine this really happened

Of course, my husband and I were lucky, so this day was, indeed, a gift. Our house survived and so did we.  Not so lucky were the hundreds of homes and people in other neighborhoods that didn’t make it.

Not much of a gift for them. 

I mention all this not to recount my worst day in 2025 or to prove that this year was cursed from the beginning and would prove to be so for anyone truly sane.

Instead, I bring it up to offer there is another way to look at it.

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brb getting out my second pair of glasses

Everyone reading this, and the billions more with the ability to still read it, survived and were gifted at least one more day. 

Probably more.

The question is, what we’ll do with them.

Just know, I HATE this kind of sentiment. 

These bromides of positivity.  This glass half-full sort of thinking.

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Don’t come to me with this!

But there was a time when I was convinced I also hated Brussel sprouts until Ina Garten instructed me how to douse them with olive oil, kosher salt and pepper and roast them in the oven at 400 degrees for about 30-35 minutes.  Since then they have become the house vegetable, sometimes with balsamic glaze and other times simply with fresh parsley and some additional sea salt.

Allowing me to know that even if everything else was shitty that day, at the very least I succeeded at not only eating my vegetables but actually enjoying them.

Which is more than I ever did during my first 25 five years of “gifted” existence. #SoMuchMoreHealthSoManyMoreGiftsToLive

Barefoot Contessa GIFs | Tenor
Way to go Chairy!

There is no point in us recapping the many disasters of 2025.  The school shootings, the affordability crisis, the cold-blooded murder of well known public figures, along with so many non-famous people who also have friends, families, loved one and talents, nee gifts.

And never mind the grifting of money from the unfortunate or unknowing, the worldwide bending (Note: though not breaking) to authoritarianism, the ravages of international war or the demonization of immigrants, nee anyone not white and Christian.

Dumpster Fire GIFs | Tenor
And here she comes again

For a married gay guy with a very Jewish last name like myself, whose grandparents on both sides were immigrants, this is especially troubling. Even more so because I actually know and like not only Muslims and Somalis but non-whites of all sorts of colors from all over the world.

Going to one of the first mandatory integrated elementary schools in New York City in the sixties will do that to you.  As will growing up in most urban cities.  As will growing up anywhere and having parents who aren’t racists.

Don't Be Racist Thanks Sticker
This

Everyone gets treated exactly the same way.  Including the whitest of Christians.

That didn’t seem exactly progressive to me back then but I never would have predicted the world we have all been gifted for at least another day.

And yes, probably more.

That said, 2025 did have a few cool things. 

Cool GIFs | Tenor
Let’s get to the cool thing!

My favorite film was One Battle After Another, Paul Thomas Anderson’s brilliant black comedy/drama treatment of the times. I also thought Sinners was pretty damn good, as was a small indie film called The History of Sound.

On television, Netflix early in the year gave us the gift of the limited series, Adolescence, and wrapped up the year with a wonderful final season (Note: One more episode to go!) of Stranger Things. HBO Max started out the year with a riveting new show, The Pitt and ended it with the LGBTQ+ series I could have only dreamed of as a kid but never would have, that viral sensation known as Heated Rivalry.

Heated Rivalry Episode 5 Showcases the Power of Representation—Can It Help  Change the Game? - Fangirlish
Oh God am I a hockey fan now?

Now if only both companies would stop gobbling up other companies. Or selling out to other companies, or billionaires, or beefy politicians, and the entire planet would be a better place.

This entirely circumvents the subject of A.I. because seriously, I can’t right now…

Instead, let’s consider at least one happy couple who were gifted overtime in 2025 – Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce.  They’d better at least be happy in real life.

Taylor Swift Opens Up About Engagement to Travis Kelce, Ring
This has to be endgame. Please God.

As should the new mayor of NYC – Zohran Mamdani.  He’s got great ideas for my hometown AND he’s Muslim.  Imagine that!  Well, I can.  As can my very Jewish blood brother Mandy Patinkin, who can be seen here, with his wife, actress Kathryn Grody, making potato latkes with him.

It could be our new slogan for 2026.

Break Bread, Not Heads.

And yes, I know latkes are technically made with matzo meal, not bread.  Just think of it as a starting point. 

And a gift.

Duke Ellington – Auld Lang Syne