Mariska, Emmys, and the Love of Screens

There’s nothing about Mariska Hargitay that doesn’t make me happy so I can’t be objective. 

But in every way possible she was the perfect host for Monday night’s 78th annual Emmy Awards.

All 13 of Mariska Hargitay's Emmys Looks — Including 1 That Honors Mom  Jayne Mansfield
Perfect host… perfect wigs

Awards shows these days are a mixed bag of… a lot. 

A lot of excellence, a lot of earnestness, a lot of self-aggrandizement and self-importance, and a lot of guilty and guiltless (Note: depending on who you are) fun and glamour.

Or simple disgust at the indulgent spectacle of it all.

It becomes difficult spending time dissecting who deserved what and how swiftly the show moved, or if evenings like this should even exist, when every day we’re being told humanity as we know it could be murdered by the end of the decade by rogue A.I. bots that, in less than a year, will at the very least be able to take over the internet and do things like freeze everyone’s bank accounts and launch their own drone attacks at will.

Why 'This Is Fine' Is the Meme This Year Deserves - The New York Times
Totally normal stuff here, move along

At least that was the latest of what I read and heard in the last few days from the experts working on this stuff.

So you will excuse me if I confess that Mariska (Note: I feel as if we’re friends), aka Olivia Benson, the bad ass cop she’s played on Law and Order: SVU for 28 seasons, gives me comfort.

Especially in nearly a dozen pitch perfect designer outfits and amid lots of big shiny gold stuff on pedestals that have nothing to do with the Oval Office.

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And a winner herself!

See, even when Mariska’s Olivia is not able to stop the bad things and the bad people, she makes you feel better about life and about yourself by being fully present when you’re with her. 

Positive, alive and hopeful.

Of course, I’m talking mostly about Olivia and not from personal experience with Mariska.

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Olivia forever!

But when an actor plays a character a lot of their qualities become one, especially the good stuff. 

So after watching this year’s Emmy-winning documentary Mariska directed, produced and starred in, My Mom, Jane, about long deceased Hollywood actress Jayne Mansfield, the mother she barely knew, it’s hard not to see the best of Benson each time she’s onscreen.

Not to mention, that’s what the people I know who’ve spoken to and worked with her say. 

The fact that we get her to guide us through yet one more awards show, well I say, let’s just… take the win?

Mariska Hargitay & Taylor Swift's Beloved Nickname Is Back After Knicks  Game Reunion
Much like her beloved Knicks!

Was it bizarre to see her jamming, singing and dancing in various locations and with various stars, among them her buddy, Knicks superstar, Jalen Brunson, in the opening number, I Love TV Screens, done to the tune of the classic, I Love Rock ‘n Roll?

You bet it was. 

But, she sold it.  Even when it ended with her entering the theatre on a horse and being lifted in the air by a bunch of men with TV sets instead of heads.

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And her fans ate it up

I LOVED it and thought, well, at least she’s game.  My husband, who actually is the one who spoke to Mariska on the phone and liked her a lot, thought, more than anything, it was “brave.”

Well, we need a little bravery right about now. 

In so many things. 

Don’t we?

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Ok Carol we’re trying!

The award winners had a large smattering of brave, too.  The new Apple comedy series, Widow’s Bay, a very strange send-up of a seaside supernatural thriller packaged as a kind of post-modern sitcom, led the pack with 14 wins, including best comedy, actor and supporting actor and actress, as well as writing and directing.

Though Jean Smart became the first leading comedy actress to win the Emmy for every season (five) of her series (Hacks) and tied the all-time record for most wins by a female performer with her eighth award.

Emmys 2026: Jean Smart makes history with five consecutive wins for Hacks
Love her, love the 80s fashion

On the drama side, The Pitt continued its reign as best drama as well as lead actor for Noah Wyle.  But writer Vince Gilligan won the writing award for his highly original, and in my mind brilliant, pilot script for the intellectually apocalyptic Pluribus, and its star Rhea Seehorn scored best actress. There was also the first major category win for Slow Horses in directing, and limited series went to the dark comedy/tragedy DTF St. Lous. 

Sally Field, who started her career in light TV comedy only to become a leading Oscar-winning dramatic actress, won for a heartfelt performance as an older woman who helps a grieving young man and an octopus in the unusual and touching streaming telefilm, Remarkably Bright Creatures.

Sally Field on Career, Mrs. Doubtfire, Remarkably Bright Creatures
I want to be Sally’s Octopus friend

So, yes, a mix of oddball, traditional and sort of…strange.

And who says the Emmys do not reflect the current world we live in?

As for the show itself, it was also a mash-up of old and new, weird and welcome, current and frozen in time. 

But this, in turn, reflects the expansion of television thanks to streaming, the internet and technology.  No longer do you need to appeal to a wide group.  You can stay on the air with a niche market of viewers who you don’t have to convince to buy a particular brand of car or cleanser.

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If you know, you know

Where else can you see the cast of Fox’s upcoming reboot of Baywatch (Note: Who asked for that???), alongside a moving, heartfelt speech by Michael J. Fox, now in a wheelchair, wittily accepting the Bob Hope Humanitarian Award for the foundation he started supporting Parkinson’s disease research, the reunion of three of the four sort of frozen-in-time stars of Charlie’s Angels (Note: 1976-1981), and the late Catherine O’Hara’s three film and TV kids (Home Alone’s Macauley Culkin, and Dan Levy and Annie Murphy from Schitt’s Creek) saluting her, amid an In Memoriam segment of those who passed away in the last year, as Noah Kahan sang Simon and Garfunkel’s Bridge Over Troubled Water and Jamie Lee Curtis eulogized Rob Reiner? 

Jamie Lee Curtis breaks down in tears honoring Rob Reiner during Emmys 2026  in memoriam
The way that I wept!

Wait, I left out the Dolly Parton song Reba McEntire sang in tribute to Dolly Parton, Appalachian Memories, the free speech declaration made by Stephen Colbert for his now defunct insurgent talk show yanked off the air by CBS and that pre-filmed cameo by Taylor Swift as a new cop on the set of SVU with its current core cast, which ended with her holding one of her cats that, in real life, she named Olivia Benson.

None of it quite makes sense or has universal appeal.  But at this moment that’s the case with not only TV, but the universe.

Zendaya Is Pure Elegance in a Crystal-Covered Gown at the 2026 Emmy Awards
But god did Zendaya look good

So the fact we had Mariska popping up periodically, bejeweled or joking or staring us down in buoyant sincerity seemed about as impeccable of a respite one could get in the outlandish surrealness of our uncertain new world.

At least until…well, you know.

Click for a complete list of Emmy winners.

Mariska Hargitay – “I Love TV Screens”

More Than Friends

This holiday season has just begun and it already has me teary-eyed at the thought of a friend and how much friendships mean to me.

This is partly due to the deaths of several precious friends whom I miss terribly right about now, and not only because they are no longer around to complain to about the holidays this year.

I promise the whole post will not be like this! I swear!

It is also due to a pair of screen stories I’ve seen in the last week where the friend in the story touched me deeply and, well, meant everything.

The first is the uncluttered, focused honesty of Jodie Foster as Bonnie Stoll, “best friend” to iconic marathon swimming champion Diana Nyad in the just released Netflix biopic, Nyad.

Fierce

Annette Bening is more than convincing in the title role (Note: She brutally trained a full year as a swimmer and it shows) but it is Foster’s performance that gives the film its true heart and meaning.

Nyad is the star (Note: In this case, athlete), a difficult, unsentimental and tunnel-visioned success story that makes the headlines and gets the lion share of the credit.  Yet what we get to see in this movie is just how much her best friend and briefly former “girlfriend” enabled the impossibly obstinate Nyad to live the kind of life she longed for both professionally and personally.

As her coach and closest confidante for decades, it is Bonnie’s loving, no-fuss determined dedication that allows Nyad, then in her early sixties, to actually fulfill her lifelong dream to become the first person in the world to swim from Cuba to Florida.

Cuz ya gotta have friends!

This, of course, makes it sound like a typical inspiration sports film and, in some ways, it is.  Except, by the end, when it isn’t that at all.

See, at most Nyad is a well-structured, competent sports drama that hits the requisite beats one would expect.

But what makes it truly worth watching is the often-unexplored relationship between two people, in this case two gay women, who briefly dated years ago and have now become family.   

Not just a Vin Diesel catchphrase

They introduce themselves to others as mere best friends, a phrase that means quite a bit on its own but is woefully lacking when it comes to these two.   And yet this is true and has also been said for many close friendships we have all seen over the years and/or perhaps have experienced for ourselves.

Still, without Bonnie there would be no Nyad and without Diana Nyad there would be no way Bonnie would likely have ever experienced the adventurous highs and intense emotional peaks and even valleys that gave her life meaning and made her feel most alive.

It’s not the typical paradigm of athlete-trainer, mentor-star. It is the unnaturally natural connection of two people that society still doesn’t have the proper term for that is the real story, the one that provides this film its principle drive and certainly that which gives it its primary power.

To better storytelling!

Not surprisingly, it is the relationship between two gay men over thirty plus years in the Showtime limited series, Fellow Travelers, that also touches me so deep to my core that at times I need to either look away, put it on pause to do some laundry or simply stick it out and let the feelings unshake memories I’ve chosen to keep pretty deeply buried for fear of the pain they would unleash (Note: Except, of course, with a therapist present).

Based on the best-selling novel, the eight, hour-long episodes of Fellow Travelers (Note: At this writing just the first five have aired) expands the scope of the fictional Hawk and Tim (aka Skippy) “love” story beyond the lavender scare of the 1950s, when gay people in Washington, D.C. were hunted down, outed and, in turn, had their lives destroyed, through the gay liberation of the late 1960s and 1970s and well into the AIDS-era death march radicalism of the mid-1980s.

See I promised you I’d watch it!

In so many ways the slightly older, certainly more experienced and handsomely sophisticated Hawk is the love of his younger, at one time lover Tim’s life.  Nevertheless, what they have is not so much a messy, decades-long, on and off again affair, but an epic, non-traditional, boundary-crossing friendship that explodes far beyond the limitations of romance.

Again, it seems to sell their relationship short to call it a mere friendship but it also sells it even shorter to classify it as a long-term functionally dysfunctional tragic love story.  Instead, what they have is a messy, magnetic, invisible to the naked eye connection that seems to have no restrictions and yet far too many limits. 

It’s more than just this

In that way, Fellow Travelers succeeds not so much as a historical chronicle of gay history and the gay people that lived it (Note: Though it has its moments) but as the uncomfortable, deeply human representation of how much and how little two people can bring to each other despite, or because, of how much they feel.

This is in no small part due to the on-screen chemistry between out actors Matt Bomer (Hawk) and Jonathan Bailey (Tim).  No, you don’t have to be gay in real life to play gay men over these four key decades but, my gosh, it helps. This is especially the case when it comes to the frankly provocative and always quite truthful sex scenes.  Not to mention what is not said in the moments right before and right after.

Full confession:  I saw so much of my younger self in the naïve, trusting Tim and too much of the impossibly charismatic, seductive Hawk in any number of dear, long gone lovers, crushes and closely observed acquaintances.  This has made me mostly adore the characters, frequently hate their actions and yet allowed me to always deeply understand how they do so much that is right and just as much that is always and utterly just so hopelessly wrong. 

The show is definitely pulling me in

It’s a relationship that creates its own rules and then defies them.  So much more than friends, and yet, they sometimes don’t even seem to be that.  Certainly, they are not the equivalent of any long-term married or unmarried couple we’ve ever seen. 

But what they are to me, and I suspect many others, is a touchstone to every wrong move we’ve ever made, every right move that didn’t work out and every random act any of us ever took that provided an unexpected, perfect outcome we could never have anticipated.

In short, a couple that you can’t help but feel, in more ways than you can count.

Friends – Bette Midler