Mariska, Emmys, and the Love of Screens

There’s nothing about Mariska Hargitay that doesn’t make me happy so I can’t be objective. 

But in every way possible she was the perfect host for Monday night’s 78th annual Emmy Awards.

All 13 of Mariska Hargitay's Emmys Looks — Including 1 That Honors Mom  Jayne Mansfield
Perfect host… perfect wigs

Awards shows these days are a mixed bag of… a lot. 

A lot of excellence, a lot of earnestness, a lot of self-aggrandizement and self-importance, and a lot of guilty and guiltless (Note: depending on who you are) fun and glamour.

Or simple disgust at the indulgent spectacle of it all.

It becomes difficult spending time dissecting who deserved what and how swiftly the show moved, or if evenings like this should even exist, when every day we’re being told humanity as we know it could be murdered by the end of the decade by rogue A.I. bots that, in less than a year, will at the very least be able to take over the internet and do things like freeze everyone’s bank accounts and launch their own drone attacks at will.

Why 'This Is Fine' Is the Meme This Year Deserves - The New York Times
Totally normal stuff here, move along

At least that was the latest of what I read and heard in the last few days from the experts working on this stuff.

So you will excuse me if I confess that Mariska (Note: I feel as if we’re friends), aka Olivia Benson, the bad ass cop she’s played on Law and Order: SVU for 28 seasons, gives me comfort.

Especially in nearly a dozen pitch perfect designer outfits and amid lots of big shiny gold stuff on pedestals that have nothing to do with the Oval Office.

Law & Order: SVU's Mariska Hargitay twins with daughter Amaya in must-see  sequin dress for Emmys appearance — photos
And a winner herself!

See, even when Mariska’s Olivia is not able to stop the bad things and the bad people, she makes you feel better about life and about yourself by being fully present when you’re with her. 

Positive, alive and hopeful.

Of course, I’m talking mostly about Olivia and not from personal experience with Mariska.

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Olivia forever!

But when an actor plays a character a lot of their qualities become one, especially the good stuff. 

So after watching this year’s Emmy-winning documentary Mariska directed, produced and starred in, My Mom, Jane, about long deceased Hollywood actress Jayne Mansfield, the mother she barely knew, it’s hard not to see the best of Benson each time she’s onscreen.

Not to mention, that’s what the people I know who’ve spoken to and worked with her say. 

The fact that we get her to guide us through yet one more awards show, well I say, let’s just… take the win?

Mariska Hargitay & Taylor Swift's Beloved Nickname Is Back After Knicks  Game Reunion
Much like her beloved Knicks!

Was it bizarre to see her jamming, singing and dancing in various locations and with various stars, among them her buddy, Knicks superstar, Jalen Brunson, in the opening number, I Love TV Screens, done to the tune of the classic, I Love Rock ‘n Roll?

You bet it was. 

But, she sold it.  Even when it ended with her entering the theatre on a horse and being lifted in the air by a bunch of men with TV sets instead of heads.

She Knows What She'S Doing Fbi Agent Alice Black GIF – She knows what she's  doing Fbi agent alice black Emmy rossum – avastage ja jagage GIF-e
And her fans ate it up

I LOVED it and thought, well, at least she’s game.  My husband, who actually is the one who spoke to Mariska on the phone and liked her a lot, thought, more than anything, it was “brave.”

Well, we need a little bravery right about now. 

In so many things. 

Don’t we?

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Ok Carol we’re trying!

The award winners had a large smattering of brave, too.  The new Apple comedy series, Widow’s Bay, a very strange send-up of a seaside supernatural thriller packaged as a kind of post-modern sitcom, led the pack with 14 wins, including best comedy, actor and supporting actor and actress, as well as writing and directing.

Though Jean Smart became the first leading comedy actress to win the Emmy for every season (five) of her series (Hacks) and tied the all-time record for most wins by a female performer with her eighth award.

Emmys 2026: Jean Smart makes history with five consecutive wins for Hacks
Love her, love the 80s fashion

On the drama side, The Pitt continued its reign as best drama as well as lead actor for Noah Wyle.  But writer Vince Gilligan won the writing award for his highly original, and in my mind brilliant, pilot script for the intellectually apocalyptic Pluribus, and its star Rhea Seehorn scored best actress. There was also the first major category win for Slow Horses in directing, and limited series went to the dark comedy/tragedy DTF St. Lous. 

Sally Field, who started her career in light TV comedy only to become a leading Oscar-winning dramatic actress, won for a heartfelt performance as an older woman who helps a grieving young man and an octopus in the unusual and touching streaming telefilm, Remarkably Bright Creatures.

Sally Field on Career, Mrs. Doubtfire, Remarkably Bright Creatures
I want to be Sally’s Octopus friend

So, yes, a mix of oddball, traditional and sort of…strange.

And who says the Emmys do not reflect the current world we live in?

As for the show itself, it was also a mash-up of old and new, weird and welcome, current and frozen in time. 

But this, in turn, reflects the expansion of television thanks to streaming, the internet and technology.  No longer do you need to appeal to a wide group.  You can stay on the air with a niche market of viewers who you don’t have to convince to buy a particular brand of car or cleanser.

7/13/2026: Recent Reads, Widow's Bay, and The Amazing Digital Circus | My  Geek Blasphemy
If you know, you know

Where else can you see the cast of Fox’s upcoming reboot of Baywatch (Note: Who asked for that???), alongside a moving, heartfelt speech by Michael J. Fox, now in a wheelchair, wittily accepting the Bob Hope Humanitarian Award for the foundation he started supporting Parkinson’s disease research, the reunion of three of the four sort of frozen-in-time stars of Charlie’s Angels (Note: 1976-1981), and the late Catherine O’Hara’s three film and TV kids (Home Alone’s Macauley Culkin, and Dan Levy and Annie Murphy from Schitt’s Creek) saluting her, amid an In Memoriam segment of those who passed away in the last year, as Noah Kahan sang Simon and Garfunkel’s Bridge Over Troubled Water and Jamie Lee Curtis eulogized Rob Reiner? 

Jamie Lee Curtis breaks down in tears honoring Rob Reiner during Emmys 2026  in memoriam
The way that I wept!

Wait, I left out the Dolly Parton song Reba McEntire sang in tribute to Dolly Parton, Appalachian Memories, the free speech declaration made by Stephen Colbert for his now defunct insurgent talk show yanked off the air by CBS and that pre-filmed cameo by Taylor Swift as a new cop on the set of SVU with its current core cast, which ended with her holding one of her cats that, in real life, she named Olivia Benson.

None of it quite makes sense or has universal appeal.  But at this moment that’s the case with not only TV, but the universe.

Zendaya Is Pure Elegance in a Crystal-Covered Gown at the 2026 Emmy Awards
But god did Zendaya look good

So the fact we had Mariska popping up periodically, bejeweled or joking or staring us down in buoyant sincerity seemed about as impeccable of a respite one could get in the outlandish surrealness of our uncertain new world.

At least until…well, you know.

Click for a complete list of Emmy winners.

Mariska Hargitay – “I Love TV Screens”

Protect the Family

In the new, emotionally affecting fourth season of The Bear that just dropped on Hulu, there is a conversation about your work family vs. your family family.  Are they separate?  Do they overlap? 

Or do people you love or are close to simply become a part of YOUR family in one big tent if you decide this is so?

If it worked for Mary, who are we to argue?

It’s an interesting cultural question right now as Americans in towns across the country witness members of their families – some of them blood relatives and others friends, neighbors and co-workers – being grabbed, handcuffed and arrested outside their homes, at their jobs, or right off of the street.

The vast majority of these people (Note: The last estimate I heard is 90%) are, in reality, not “the worst of the worst violent criminals” despite how many times this lie gets repeated by the current administration or across the airwaves of Fox News. 

My blanket response to Fox News

Saying something over and over again does not make it true.  Nor does wishing for it to stop make it go away on its own. 

Especially when you can’t help but see the horrific arrests and sometimes beatings as plain as day on social media websites everywhere.

Or anywhere else you might get your news. 

Even, like, a newspaper.

Yes, a newspaper Grandma.

Diehard print journalism major that I am, even I must admit the most powerful of these stories come courtesy of ordinary citizens who simply whip out their cell phones and film videos of these purposely unidentified masked “enforcers”, often not in any discernible uniform, chasing people they know down the street or through vegetable gardens, cuff them and, if necessary, beat them into restraint before throwing them in an unmarked van and driving off to who knows where.

I can’t speak for anyone else but I can tell you I am 100% sure that if this happened to a member of my work family, family family or anyone else I cared about, filming it would be the least of what I’d do.

As one of Woody Allen’s characters commented in Manhattan on dealing with Nazis:

..A satirical piece in the Times is one thing, but bricks and baseball bats get right to the point.

Yes, I know whole swaths of my students (and perhaps you) don’t like it when I quote lines from Woody Allen movies, but I am who I am and Nazis are who they are.

Still, at the end of the day there is this one truth:

The vast majority of us will fight for our “families” in ferocious and unexpected ways when push comes to shove. 

Say it together now

They might work our last nerve or be a key element in a backstory of resentment.  But something happens when an outsider picks on them – or does worse. 

Suddenly you find yourself brandishing the nearest weapon available at those who want to do them in.  Or group thinking some ingenious scheme to keep them safe, or at least out of harm’s way, until you can come up with a better plan.

(Note: For me, it’s usually a sharp, snide, threatening flurry of cutting insults or pithy, bitchy phrases.  Unless it’s Nazis).

Addams Family rules

You might be totally pissed off at your family member, after the dust settles, for their behavior. Or for putting you in this position.  You might even wonder where the resolve came from.  But what you don’t do is regret it. 

Ever.   

In a way, that is what most of us will likely come away with after watching iconic Law and Order: SVU actress/director Mariska Hargitay’s raw, honest and highly original new HBO documentary, My Mom Jayne. 

Love them

For those who had no idea, Hargitay is the daughter of the late, one-time world-renowned 1950s blonde bombshell, B movie actress, Jayne Mansfield.   But at three years old, riding in a car with her mother and two of her siblings, she endured a fatal crash that killed Jayne, her lawyer boyfriend and the man who was driving them. 

Miraculously all three children survived.  But, as Hargitay admits, she has spent a lifetime running away not so much from the event, which she has no memory of, but the legacy of the high-pitched, made-up, girlie-voice and Hollywood blondeness her very famous mother left behind.

And, as it turns out, a lot more. (Note: No spoilers here.  Promise!).

You better not, Chairy!

Though what makes the film a must-see is not only what we learn about Jayne (Note: Among many other things, she was classically trained on the violin and piano, spoke five languages fluently and had an IQ of 163). It’s how after a lifetime of running away from everything she represented, and by putting her own antipathy at the center of the narrative, she manages to rescue the real Jayne from the neat little Tinseltown sarcophagus Hollywood so ably arrested and hermetically sealed her into all those decades ago.

Full Confession:  Mariska’s Olivia Benson on SVU is one of my all-time favorite television characters.  Tough, smart, brave and sensitive over 26 seasons and someone who could deal with Nazis and Nazi-like behavior far better than I could advise. 

In fact (Note: Full confession #2): On more than one occasion, while watching the news, I have actually asked myself:  #WWOBD? 

Words to live by

That is, if she actually existed and could save us from our world in 60 minutes with commercials. (Note: Oh, of course, I know she’s not REAL… Or, well, totally… I think).

In any event, watch My Mom Jayne and see if you don’t see the best parts of her in this documentary. 

And then look at all of those people standing up for members of their families, chosen or not, across the country.

Never stop fighting

And then consider that if, in creating that character all those years ago, the SVU writers and actress didn’t draw on the qualities exhibited by the best of Americans that were already out there. 

People who would go to great lengths to protect the innocent or unjustly categorized.  Especially if it was someone they cared about.

Jack Johnson – “Better Together”