Best of the Week

A 2025 wrap-up next week. 

Well, more of a good riddance to a year that the most optimistic part of most of us would categorize as…challenging.  

Because you never want to tempt fate by saying any year was the worst.

Dumpster Fire GIFs | Tenor
Too much?

But as the Chair finishes his grading – and that’s what this year has done, caused me to more often than not speak about myself in the third person – here are three memorable moments to get you through the fourth week in December.

#1 – THE OUTPOURING OF LOVE FOR ROB REINER

Rob Reiner: A Gifted Artist Who Knew Why People Need Stories
Our beloved Meathead

A very smart person told me years ago that when someone you love and/or admire is no longer around you want to think about the way they lived rather than the way they died.

Perhaps you’ve heard that too.  Or read it.  It’s hardly an original thought.  But one that I constantly have to remind myself of when a death that really gets to me happens.

And what really got me after the initial shock over the gruesomely awful murders of Rob Reiner and his wife, Michelle Reiner, was the outpouring of love and kindness not only worldwide, but most particularly in Hollywood, aka The Industry.

Rob Reiner's star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame is adorned with flowers as  grieving fans pay tribute to the iconic director.
Gone but never forgotten

Aside from the countless remembrances from his famous friends and not so famous fans, I’ve heard stories and heard ABOUT stories from many dozens of people RR gave a start to, was kind to, talked to or took time out to simply notice when nobody else was paying attention.

Everyone without exception thought of him as smart, funny, generous and, as my tribe likes to say, a mensch. 

A fitting tribute from his Sally

Not many so accomplished in these parts do you hear that about.

Yeah, he was “Meathead” in All in the Family.

And of course, he directed a string of memorable and varied hit films, the likes of which few can claim – This Is Spinal Tap, The Sure Thing, Stand By Me, The Princess Bride, When Harry Met Sally…, Misery, A Few Good Men and The American President -nearly eight in a row over 11 years (1984-1995).

Undeniable talent

Not to mention Castle Rock Entertainment, the production company he founded that gave us screenwriter Aaron Sorkin’s first movies and Larry David’s first TV series (Note: Um, Seinfeld).

But as memorable as it all was and is, it’s his political activism this gay man of a certain age will remember. RR and his wife stepped up for lots of causes but in particular he lead the fight to legalize gay marriage, both financially and vocally – first to stop California’s proposed 2008 ban on same sex marriage (Prop 8), and later by funding the legal fight all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court.

How Rob Reiner's Activism Advanced the Fight to Legalize Gay Marriage and  Tax the Rich
Thank you Rob

It’s easy to step up when everyone else is, or when it directly affects your well-being.  It’s more difficult, and rare, to put yourself on the front line and lead a fight with your time, money and celebrity simply because you know it’s the right thing to do.

#2 – EPISODE FIVE OF THE VIRAL QUEER ROMANCE HBO MAX TV SERIES – HEATED RIVALRY.

Heated Rivalry' S1 E5 recap: confessions and major kiss
This is TV

It was the gay kiss scene seen round the world and embraced by millions of gays AND straights.  But if you would’ve told teenage Chair that one day he would turn on his television set and see two hot gay guys making out to cheers in front of a crowd of millions in the middle of a hockey rink just after one of them won the fictional equivalent of the Stanley Cup he would have….

Happy Shock GIFs | Tenor
Well…

Let’s just say it would’ve saved him a decade of woes, not to mention therapy.

But rest assured for decades to come the kiss will be featured in gay bars and pride parades everywhere for its uncomplicated message of love and acceptance.

When I was pressured into watching Heated Rivalry some weeks ago (Note: Okay, I don’t know everything) I figured that at best it was like the USA Network and Cinemax mated to birth a gay television series for Canada for a very select and mostly horny crowd.

watmay1 Anyone remember that episode of Seinfeld where there was a gay guy  and everyone just kept staring into the camera and saying "Not that there's  anything wrong with that."
that’s what I’m saying!

Yikes, was I wrong.  (Note: Well, partly wrong).  And the six episode season one that prompted it to  receive a larger, multi-episode season two order is proof.

Yeah, it’s hot and romantic.  But it’s also loving and nuanced with two of the most original young female LGBTQ allies TV has ever seen fit to give us.

#3 – TWO SOCIAL MEDIA POSTS FROM THE RESISTANCE TO A TONE-DEAF, BUS & TRUCK TOTALITARIAN ADMINISTRATION.

I will let the posts/tweets speak for themselves. 

The first is from Kerry Kennedy – lawyer, author, human rights advocate and niece of the late Pres. John F. Kennedy.  Along with the rest of us, she was infuriated when the current, ahem, POTUS, this week decided to literally rig the voting system of the Kennedy Center Board and slather his name ABOVE JFK’s, proclaiming the famed arts center The Donald J. Trump and The John F. Kennedy Memorial Center for the Performing Arts.

The second is from [an impersonation of] Cher from her fans (Note: aka, Fan Fiction).  White House Press Secretary Karoline Leavitt, known to reporters on the Hill as Bullsh-t Barbie, made the unwise decision to diss Cher publicly as an irrelevant relic of the past.

Let me just say this before I give diva and her posse the closing word.

I worked with Cher on a movie years ago. 

YOU. DO. NOT. COME. FOR. HER. 

At 72, Cher achieves major 2018 music milestone for a woman - ABC News
She’s always in her Queen Era

OR HER ADORING GAZILLIONS OF FANS WHO LOOOOOVE TO IMPERSONATE HER.

SHE (AND THEY). WILL. ALWAYS. WIN. 

Especially when they’re ALL right. Here’s a sampling of a fake, but oh so seemingly real, tweet written in Cher’s voice by her adoring brood (as if there is a difference).

RULE OF THUMB:  THE ONLY THING LEFT OF THE EARTH AFTER THE NUCLEAR HOLOCAUST WILL BE TWINKIES, TITANIUM AND AN AI VERSION OF CHER. PROCEED WITH CAUTION.

Cher – “DJ Play a Christmas Song”

Serling, Lear & Goldman

 

No, this is not a law firm.  As far as I know.

These are the names of three show business icons better known as Rod Serling, Norman Lear and William Goldman.

It’s not a good idea to trot out words like icon or legend too often.   You sound like a syndicated talk show host whose sole purpose in life is to overpraise someone more famous in the hopes that it’ll do you some good.

Think Mike Pence whenever he’s in the presence of the Electoral College POTUS.  (Note: And how could you not?)

Let’s hope that’s all he is #Mueller?

Still, there are some cases where the word icon feels exactly right, especially if we are to believe the dictionary definition:

Icon: A representative symbol of something.  Synonym,  idol, paragon, hero. 

Certainly Mr. Serling, Mr. Lear and Mr. Goldman are all of the above and more to most everyone in the writing trade, the entertainment industry and by extension, through the reach of their life’s work, the world.

Hyperbole?  I think not.

Thank you Stefon

In the last several days I was reminded of the gargantuan achievements of these three writers, all born within 10 years of each other, for completely different reasons.

William Goldman, who died this week at the age of 87, was for years the most respected and highest paid screenwriter in the business.  Consider the movies from over 40 years, beginning with Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, then on to All The President’s Men, Marathon Man and The Stepford Wives and then back around to The Princess Bride, Chaplin and Misery and you might begin to get some idea.  If not, you can throw in tons of uncredited rewrites on things like A Few Good Men and Good Will Hunting and perhaps it will get clearer.

The Real Deal

It was William Goldman who introduced the infamous phrase follow the money into the lexicon of political writing via his Oscar-winning screenplay for All the President’s Men.  Peruse his other scripts and you will no doubt find many others.

Just ask Wallace Shawn  #asyouwish

Though none of them will even come close to his three-word perfect summation of the movie business:  Nobody knows anything.

For those not directly involved in the industry, here’s a full sentence of his  elaborating on that thought:  Not one person in the entire motion picture field knows for a certainty what’s going to work.

That and a lot more were written by Mr. Goldman in his 1983 seminal book on navigating Hollywood, Adventures in the Screen Trade.  But more than anything else, those three perfect words – NOBODY. KNOWS. ANYTHING. gave hope, courage and permission to a generation of people starting out in the business, myself included, to soldier on and persevere.

Cheers to you Mr. Goldman

His screenwriting work was brilliant, and he wrote a bunch of fine novels (on some holiday vacation read his first, Boys and Girls Together).  But his ability to so bluntly tell the truth about what he experienced and observed extended far beyond fiction or the movies.  He gave so many of us who had our noses pressed up against the glass the belief that the people we thought we had to impress didn’t have all the answers – we did.  All we had to do was to tell the truth through our work and we had as good of a shot at making it as he did.

Rod Serling and Norman Lear might not seem a natural combination at first mention but when you give it some thought it’s exactly right.  They were born within two years of each other in the 1920s and though Mr. Lear, now 96 and still active, has lived twice as long (Note: Mr. Serling died prematurely at the age of 50,) each writer changed the face of television by being fearless in their own very specific ways.

.. and both have a signature look

By his early thirties, Rod Serling was already an accomplished playwright and Emmy award-winning writer devoted to telling meaningful stories that touched on social issues.  Still, he was known in the biz as a bit of an upstart who had grown weary of battling corporate sponsors and executives too timid to support the kind of tales he wanted to tell.

That was when he got the idea to write in the more commercially appealing science fiction genre, grounding his characters in a way so relatable it would enable him the ability to tackle such timely themes as war, racism, class, politics and censorship.

Like you’d ever forget these faces

One can hardly imagine when The Twilight Zone first aired in 1959 that even he could foresee the enduring legacy of that groundbreaking anthology series.  Not only does it still run all over the world more than half a century later, it has been reinvented as a feature film, in numerous television spin-offs and remakes, as well as homaged in the music world.

Most recently, Jordon Peele was announced as the host of a new CBS reboot of The Twilight Zone set to air in 2019.

But perhaps even more impressive is the fact that those three wordsTHE. TWILIGHT. ZONE. – are now embedded as a permanent part of language and pop culture as we know it (Note/Nee: Being an American these days is like living  in The Twilight Zone) that will forever be associated with its writer and onscreen narrator.

It was in that spirit this past week that Ithaca College presented Norman Lear with its annual Rod Serling Award for advancing social justice through popular media.   (Note: Serling taught at the college in the 1970s and his archives are housed there).  As a professor and Chair (Note: Ahem) at the school’s L.A. program, I got to be part of that evening and had a front row seat to Mr. Lear’s sharp as ever comic timing and humility as he got up to the podium at L.A.’s Paley Center to accept.

The man himself, pictured here with Ithaca College’s Park School Dean Diane Gayeski, and One Day at Time colleague Mike Royce

Anyone who has watched television comedy in the last fifty years has likely seen one of Mr. Lear’s shows and the majority of we baby boomers came of age on them.

To watch a first-run episode of All in the Family in the actual era it came of age was to see for the first time in half-hour prime time TV an unvarnished version of ourselves and our extended families in all of our inglorious prejudices, ignorances and, ultimately, humanity.  No one had ever used THOSE WORDS before on the Big Three networks despite the fact that they used them and we heard them every day of our lives.  Heck, no one had ever even heard a toilet flush on TV before the series did it in 1971!

Archie is not that impressed

Mr. Lear also gave us the first upwardly mobile Black family (The Jeffersons), the first TV comedy episode to ever deal with abortion (Maude) and the first divorced prime time mom of the era (One Day At A Time).  (Note: The latter also recently rebooted on Netflix). The fact is if we don’t see an immediate connection between the subjects tackled by the fictional law partners, Serling and Lear, it is merely due to our own shortcomings, not theirs

Among the unplanned comic gems during Mr. Lear’s acceptance speech at the Paley was the moment when his iPhone began to audibly ring.  He stopped mid-speech, instantly reached into his pocket and saw it was a family member, began a conversation with her, and, without missing a beat, put it on speakerphone so the rest of us NOT at the podium could hear.  Most actors, not to mention us non-96 year old pros and non-pros, couldn’t rehearse this and get it right (especially the speaker part) never much less be funny in our ad-libs to a faceless voice.

More skillful, however, was what came next. After he said of his TV work: I didn’t do it alone  he went on to reassure his many admirers that he really is only a person who gets up in the morning, eats, goes to the bathroom and then goes to sleep at night – just like they do.

Don’t mind me.. getting emotional over here

Then suddenly he, and then the room, fell dead silent as he contemplated this for a few VERY long moments.   As we all got concerned something was wrong, he finally looked down, then right back out at us, and said:

You know, everything in life led me to this moment.  Isn’t that something?

At which point he let some more time go by, evoking more silence once again, until he reiterated:  And to this one.

Then once more again, echoing:

And that one.  Everything you have done before has brought YOU right here…..Think about it.

One couldn’t help but wonder if what he was really telling us was that taking in the moment, really feeling it, and then sharing those feelings with others, was not only the key to his art but the secret to life.

Of course whether that’s true or not is in the eye of the beholder. Since, let’s face it, nobody knows anything.

“Those Were The Days” –  Theme from All in the Family