The Truth About the Oscars

At their best, movies either reflect the truth about our lives or provide an escape from our lives. 

Both are necessary and, together, for me, they reflect the yin and yang of my sanity.

The only thing that keeps me sane is fictional characters. | Cry For Help  Ecard
And not just Shane and Ilya

But right now I’m doing a lot more yanging than I am yinging.

Meaning the push and pull between what’s real (Note: The yang) and fake (Note: The ying), aka which of those worlds I want to play in at any given moment, has become head-spinning at best.

The Oscar nominations were announced this week, an event I look forward to every year because it brings me back to a time of childhood innocence; when I thought winning would solve everything for me and I, in turn, would help solve the problems of the world.

And no, I’m not kidding.

2026 Oscar nominations: The complete list : NPR
Help me Bill Pullman’s son — you’re my only hope

But they were upstaged by the continued crumbling of actual American freedoms on the streets of Minneapolis, supercharged to a head when masked ICE officers tackled and murdered a 37-year-old ICU nurse as he was trying to help a young woman they had knocked to the ground and pepper-sprayed.

Once the “supercharging” happened, a mere 24-hours after Sinners became the most Oscar-nominated film in Academy Awards history – well, I don’t know about you, but for me, it’s been hard to focus. 

Minneapolis
All ghouls

What to do —

Say the name of Alex Pretti over and over again and show and tell his story to anyone who will listen because, in my mind, unless we do at least that we will all be next?

Or –

Take some much-needed me time to discuss not only why there are now TEN best picture nominees instead of five (Note: Like day camp, everyone gets a participation trophy?), but how the hell F1 got on that list.

This is not to say that focusing on this year’s Oscar nominees is not reflective of the world at large and the various hot button issues faced in the U.S. in particular.

The two leading contenders alone are so timely they’re literally less than half a step away from prescient.

How Will Warner Bros. Handle The Success Of "Sinners" As "One Battle After  Another" And Awards Season Approaches?
Not letting the bastards win

Sinners is a brilliantly evocative dissection of white American vampirism  (Note: Both literally and figuratively) in one Jim Crow South community that was wrought so originally, disturbingly and even musically by writer-director Ryan Coogler that its crossed over into mainstream blockbuster status and will soon have earned over $400 million worldwide.

And Paul Thomas Anderson’s One Battle After Another, a black comedy, thriller, father-daughter story of a corrupt military hunting down Americans they don’t deem American enough, starting with brown-skinned immigrants and liberals, could literally be evidence that PTA has a crystal ball somewhere were it not partially based on Thomas Pynchon’s 1990 novel Vineland.

Paul Thomas Anderson: 'You can tell a lot about a person by what they order  for breakfast' | Phantom Thread | The Guardian
Soon to be Oscar winner and part time psychic PTA

That book explored what happens to a small California town still steeped in freedom-loving 1960s counterculture during the anything but, and ultra-conservative, Reagan era of the 1980s.

Talk about art imitating life, life imitating art and the never-ending ouroboros of it all.

The sad truth of the matter is that like the 1960s Vietnam era, the government is still massaging the truth for the masses and asking us to believe that protesting governmental violence in the streets is a crime punishable by death (Note: I was a kid when Kent State happened but I still remember that Time Magazine cover of innocent college students being gunned down by a trigger-happy American military fed up with the audacity of those choosing to protest, or even be in the vicinity of one.

I would say never forget, but we forgot

What’s different now is that unlike that time, when we had to depend on a handful of intrepid still photographers or news cameras, anyone can record the goings-from every angle by merely pushing a button on their cell phone.  (Note: And do).

So instead of arguing the nuances of fact, the powers-that-be deny the reality of millions of pixels courtesy of thousands of Apple devices and tell us Alex Pretti was brandishing his hand gun when it’s clear as Reagan’s dye job that he was holding his iPhone up with one hand and gallantly using the other to help a woman in distress.

Illusions, not tricks: Behavioral Prototyping | by Josephine Le | Medium
It’s very this

Though if you’ve ever spent any time around ICU nurses, as I have in the last ten years, you’d know they’d pretty much help anyone.  Especially Alex, who spent many hundreds of hours at a Minneapolis V.A. hospital prolonging the lives of military men, not shooting them.

Lying, of course, is not limited to government men like Greg Bovino, our current U.S. Customs and Border Chief, who came out and gave a press conference before Alex Pretti’s body was cold, unequivocally stating Alex “..was brandishing a gun and planned to massacre law enforcement..” despite mountains of evidence to the contrary.

Many, many decades ago it was Pablo Picasso who also let the cat out of the bag about all of us creative types, big and small, when he famously proclaimed:

Art is the lie that tells the truth.

Guernica | Description, History, & Facts | Britannica
Look no further than his famous Guernica

Still, the very nature of the arts is that we make stuff in order to make people think, or give them relief from thinking too much.  We proudly tell you it’s a fictional interpretation of the truth so you can admire, or even loathe us, even more (Note: if that’s possible).

What we don’t do is make up a lie about the actual truth and then claim it is what literally happened. We’d never disrespect our audience that much.

Or, well, most of us wouldn’t.

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And if you do, watch out for Dakota Johnson

Because I can argue Sinners’ 16 Oscar nominations is not really an entirely true record, as the Academy of Motion Picture ARTS and Sciences so publicly claims.

All Above Eve (1950) the previous record-holder at 14 noms, along with Titanic (1977) and La La Land (2016), was released in an era where there was NO CATEGORY for either makeup and hairstyling  OR casting.

Now are you doing to tell me that Margo Channing’s hair and makeup and the casting of a young, unknown Marilyn Monroe practically stealing a scene from Bette Davis and the rest of the cast, would not be enough to land that film TWO more nominations in those categories?

All About Eve | Plot, Cast, Awards, & Facts | Britannica
… and it would have won both

I didn’t think so.

And that would at least make it a tie, at 16-16.

As A.I. emerges, with the power of our new MAGA tolerant/supporting Tech Oligarch class, my fear is that pretty soon we won’t be able to distinguish the subtle gray areas of issues far more important.

That The Lie will be The Art and it will Tell Everything… But the Truth.

And the majority of us will be onboard with it simply to survive.

Huntr/x – “Golden” (from KPop Demon Hunters)

Aging Out

In the new, intriguing and highly watchable French film, A Private Life, Jodie Foster plays a smart mess of a psychiatrist who gets caught up in uncovering the reasons behind the recent death of a patient.

I’ve grown up watching Jodie Foster in the movies, mostly because she started as a child and gained worldwide fame and her first Academy Award nomination for playing a street hooker in Taxi Driver.

A PRIVATE LIFE | Official Trailer (2026) - YouTube
Cataloging her long career

She was 12 years old when she made that film and by the time she turned forty she had already won two  best actress Oscars – one for The Accused (1989) and the other for Silence of the Lambs (1992). 

Being a movie star for that long etches your image in people’s brains, especially for a fan like myself.  But nothing prepared me for the moment in A Private Life when they introduce a character who I initially thought was her grandfather but realized couldn’t be because they quickly begin flirting with each other and are soon…

Cover Eyes GIFs | Tenor
yeeps

Well, never mind.

As it turns out, it’s her ex-husband and he’s played by the French actor-director Daniel Auteuil. Even in a French film, this seemed like an odd leap of faith to me until I couldn’t stand it any longer and paused the movie to look up their ages. 

As it turns out Jodie Foster is 63 years-old and Mr. Auteuil is a mere 12 years older.  A perfect age range for the characters but quite a wake-up call for moi.

I mean, how old did I think she was?

A Private Life' review: Therapist Jodie Foster wades into foul play - Los  Angeles Times
We need to talk about Jodie

Of course, I never gave it any thought because even though she doesn’t appear to have had any cosmetic “enhancements” (Note: Or perhaps because of that) she merely looked like Jodie Foster.

Also, she’s younger than I am, so how old could I even imagine she looked? 

I’m not sure but in my mind nowhere NEAR the age where this guy could believably be her HUSBAND unless the MASSIVE age difference was a story point.

Which it wasn’t.

Unsure GIFs | Tenor
I don’t know how to think

The real story here is my reaction and I suspect the reaction of many of us to how we see ourselves, our  peers and the cultural “icons” we grew up with. 

But even more importantly, what we imagine getting “older,” or worse yet, looking older, really means.

Fran Lebowitz was recently a guest on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon, an oxymoron if I ever heard one.  In any event, she told a funny story about getting older as a famous person and noted there were really only three categories of age:

Young, old and surgical.

Thanks to social media, one no longer has to live in Los Angeles to feel that way.  All over the country, and likely the world, we refuse to accept not only our age but the age of our icons.

Unless, that is, the icons openly look old or even older.  Or want to continue to play in younger spaces. 

Which these days is pretty much anywhere since everyone has a camera and can post your latest pic everywhere.

Selfie 101 - Juno Power
I mean it with love

Now there is nothing wrong with growing older and, as many an older person told me before I breezed past Jodie’s age, it beats the alternative. 

There’s that phrase, as well as, getting old is a privilege.

a man with gray hair and a beard is smiling with his arms in the air
Sigh

Which you realize, once you get older, that it indeed is since most of us don’t want to die any time soon – hence, the privilege. 

There are recent examples of icon-ish show biz figures making a point of their, um, lack of youth, and using it to their benefit.

Taking the stage at the Astra Awards last week to pick up the creative organization’s Timeless award, the openly 67-year-old actress Sharon Stone recounted how, earlier in the evening, a group of young people who didn’t know who she was rudely accused her of stealing a chair to sit at their table.

Sharon Stone blasts rude kids at Astra Awards who accused her of stealing  seat
Maybe it was the outfit?

After proclaiming, award in hand, now they do, and telling them F you from the stage, she went on to give a memorable speech about artistic determination and preparation, as well as putting any fame you have to use for social activism towards issues you care about.

Sixty-year-old Robert Downey, Jr. cited he was double the age of Timothee Chalamet at a recent event he himself instigated in order to promote the latter’s soon-to-be Oscar nominated performance in Marty Supreme.

Calling the younger actor’s work in the film a generation defining performance in a decade-defining film, the now gray-haired Downey embraced the age difference in front of a room full of potential Hollywood Oscar voters and recalled how much it meant to him when then old-timers like Warren Beatty and Anthony Hopkins reached out to him publicly when he was 27-years-old and blew them away with his performance as the silent screen legend in Chaplin.

Robert Downey Jr. and Timothée Chalamet onstage
game recognizes game

Downey had no trouble embracing his now elder status but no doubt there are a group of longtime fans who shudder at the thought that the quintessential troubled party boy from Less Than Zero or the cool bro they marveled at, Tony Stark, aka the original Ironman, will soon be able to collect social security. 

3 Years of Avengers: Endgame: There'll Never Be A Theatrical Experience  Like This Ever Again
And I’ve turned to dust…

It is interesting to note that none of the above people mentioned quite look their age (Note: Though what DOES any ACTUAL age look like anymore?) to us, whether by design or our refusal to accept the number of chronological years they’ve been around. 

This also begs the bigger question of whether celebrities, or regular people like us, get marginalized for the actual NUMBER or for not looking an indeterminate fifty-ish for the entirety of their golden years right up until DEATH.

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Get me Isabella in Death Becomes Her, please

Rachel Ward had a long career in the 1980s, 90s and beyond as a Golden Globe-winning movie and TV star, as well as model, with a worldwide following that Gen X, Y and Z are likely unfamiliar with.  But what they might now know her for this week is being the derisive object of online trolls for daring to appear as her gray-haired, dark-eyebrowed bespeckled 68-year-old real-self on social media in order to promote her Australian farm and its sustainability initiative. 

I mean, how dare she? 

Rachel Ward, The Thorn Birds, Instagram
Side by side

Now, was I shocked when my husband showed me the picture above? 

Um, yes.  And then I was both appalled and surprised.

At myself.  

Because on closer inspection I thought she kind of looked hippy dippy good! 

Maybe I’m finally beginning to evolve for the better.

Gold Star GIFs | Tenor
Giving myself a gold star too!

Which is more than I can say for the rest of the country and the world at this point in time.

About so many things.

Lana Del Rey – “Young and Beautiful”