Did you know that Mother’s Day is the third highest card-selling holiday behind Christmas and Valentine’s Day? Somehow that doesn’t seem right given if it weren’t for Mom none of us would be here.
Very this
But who am I to argue with statistics from a trade union named the Greeting Card Association, especially in such a perilous time for unions?
And if you are or ever have been a union member of any kind, please remember this November there are only two choices at the ballot box:
DEMOCRACY
DICTATORHSIP
Cast your votes accordingly.
That’s a yes from mother Oprah
Though living with my Mom was often a dictatorship, albeit a bottom line loving one, I’ll cast my vote for democracy every time.
You get to make those choices and more once you turn 18.
My mother Marion and my stepmom Shelly are no longer with us, though I randomly hear both of their voices in my head at least once a week. If not more.
And no, it’s not only because I’m the gay son.
Still doing it all
It’s because each of them, and mothers in general, are our first measuring stick of the world. They teach us what’s right and what’s wrong and often times, when you’re much older, you realize they were correct a lot more than you thought.
Though not nearly as much as you wished they would have been when you were growing up.
I, for one, will never quite forgive my mother for forcing me into a Nehru suit and medallion necklace when I was 13 years old (Note: Though did she really have to twist my arm all that much?). Yet I have to give her credit for an enduring narcissism that has never allowed me to leave home looking that fashion victim-y again.
Thanks Ma
Yet at this time of year all I can think of is that in random moments I miss her terribly. Ditto Shelly, who was determined to love me from the very beginning. She even forgave the teenage me for drawing double entendre obscenities on the eggs in her refrigerator in the middle of the night just so the entire family would see them first thing in the morning.
I guess I needed a creative outlet and somehow I sense she knew that because it took only about a day for her to encourage me to keep at it. This was something she, and my mom Marion would do for the rest of my life.
There would be no Notes without them
It’s weird what you think of on Mother’s Day.
Especially when you have no need to buy the mandatory card.
PS – I just learned Paul McCartney actually wrote this song for his mother, whose name was Mary. All these years I thought it was a biblical reference! #themoreyouknow
I won’t watch the reboot of Roseanne on ABC. This does not mean I am close-minded, want her removed from the airwaves or in any way prefer she is silenced, censored or modified.
It doesn’t even mean I am angry that 18.1 million people tuned in to watch her in actual real time – an unheard of number for the premiere of a prime time network show these days.
Nor does it say I want to opt out of the national conversation or give up my status as an incurable, inveterate culture vulture.
It was pretty exciting, I’ll tell you that much…They said, ‘Hold please for the President of the United States of America’ and that was about the most exciting thing, ever. It was just very sweet of him to congratulate us.
I find nothing about Trump exciting, and certainly never sweet. I believe he is destroying our country, and democracy along with it, by his corruption, his racism, his incompetence and his vile treatment towards anyone or anything that opposes him.
Oh is that all???
I believe deep down that if he got his way we would not only be under the thumb of Russia, we would BE RUSSIA.
I also find everything the actual Roseanne is pushing under the guise of her fictional doppelganger to be disingenuous. Like Trump, I am convinced she is first and foremost out for herself – using our red vs. blue divide as a way to once again be relevant and earn wheel barrels full of money.
Roseanne is definitely hitting the slopes
The thought of giving her 150,000th of one single penny is even more nauseating to me than eating a side of the watery canned peas and carrots my mom used to serve to us at dinner every week – and that’s really saying something. (Note: DM me on Twitter for my sister’s handle and she will confirm).
The same cannot be said about Fox TV host Laura Ingraham and what I hope is her curtailment at her network and elsewhere after she chose to bully and gloat about David Hogg, high school student and Parkland school shooting survivor, NOT getting into four of the colleges he applied to.
David Hogg Rejected By Four Colleges To Which He Applied and whines about it. (Dinged by UCLA with a 4.1 GPA…totally predictable given acceptance rates.) https://t.co/wflA4hWHXY
By consistently demonizing the teenager, not to mention his friends, who had just witnessed 14 of their friends shot to death before their own ears and/or eyes on Valentine’s Day, Ingraham and her colleagues at Fox have been the leaders of a right wing media assault of ADULTS hoping to make these TEENAGERS the subject of national ridicule by millions more of their viewers by fanning the flames of resentment that will implicitly urge as many of their acolytes as possible to go on virtual attack.
Nothing would please me more than seeing Ms. Ingraham’s ambitions flattened and watching the fire-breathing flames of hate she espouses daily turned directly back at her. And with the help of Mr. Hogg and others far more powerful than me and my tweets and my blog and my blah, blah, blah, I might be getting my wish.
Oh I’m not enjoying this… not even a little bit
Thanks to Mr. Hogg and his fan base, so far she has been dropped by these ELEVEN sponsors:
Hulu, Nestle, Johnson & Johnson, Trip Advisor, Nutrish, Stitch Fix, Expedia, Liberty Mutual, Wayfair and Jos. A. Bank.
Panicked, she issued a faux apology that read:
On reflection, in the spirit of Holy Week, I apologize for any upset or hurt my tweet caused him or any of the brave victims of Parkland…
Notice there was no regret about any of her words, which she obviously stands by (Note: And presumably believes Jesus would, too). Ms. Ingraham obviously understands what her base wants. But so does young Mr. Hogg, who wisely called her out on her B.S., noting it was due to a loss of revenue and not any real desire to change her or her network’s behavior.
Pass the Purell
Had Mr. Hogg done a little more research (Note: Though perhaps he has) he would know the full story. Yes, he called her out for tweeting at basketball greats LeBron James and Kevin Durant to shut up and dribble when they gave an interview and dared to express support for fellow players taking a knee during the national anthem, but she has also:
– Said Mexican immigrants have come here to “murder and rape our people.”
– Called Planned Parenthood employees “heinous, Hitlerian freaks.”
– And said the NAACP is “a push organization for racist sentiments.”
More importantly, this goes further back than that – all the way to her college years.
In the eighties, as editor of the Dartmouth Review, she called her campus’s Gay Students Association “cheerleaders for latent campus sodomites” and sent a reporter to secretly tape the meeting because she disliked they were treated as any other student organization where the campus would provide an activity fee ($100 per student) for them to operate.
Oh yes she did
So much so that she then went on to print the names of gay students present at the meeting, outing some of them in the process. All this occurred at the height of the AIDS crisis in the 80s. #WWJD.
A decade later she did go on to write a 1997 editorial in TheWashington Post explaining her past and to admit her views were somewhat modified when she found out her brother Curtis was gay and that his lover was dying of AIDS.
She also asked not to be judged about things she did in college – which somehow seems to presuppose she learned her lesson about hurling personal attacks towards young people who represent causes she disagrees with.
But well, clearly she hasn’t.
She definitely hasn’t #tellemjessica
Though maybe this would be different if David Hogg were her brother with a girlfriend who had sustained life-threatening injuries from gun violence that she could then see David caring for up close and personal.
Oh, and for the record, she is still NOT A SUPPORTER of gay marriage.
Roseanne does support gay marriage and was one of the first to feature out gay characters on network television in a more than casual way. Does this somewhat temper my personal line in the sand? Perhaps a little, though not entirely.
Not impressed #whatever
There is a difference in choosing to personally boycott the work of someone with whom you disagree and don’t respect vs. urging the national boycott of someone who bullies minors, rages against non-white and non-straight minorities and eggs on her millions of followers to do the same.
There is free speech but also the free market. They simultaneously co-exist and there is a cause and effect to each.
One last word on Ms. Ingraham –
Do we have to?? #OKChair #staywithme
While so many of her contemporaries have evolved through personal experience she has remained her same strident professional self as she pursues, what exactly? Personal fame and fortune? World domination? If either is true, and they seem so, the most dangerous, real-life comparison that quickly comes to mind are the actions and/or motivations of our current Electoral College president – @realDonaldTrump.
So no surprise that she is not only one of his most ardent supporters but the name that is most often at the top of the list to become his new White House Communications Director.
Pass the advil #notanad
With her just announced one-week vacation hiatus, that might happen sooner than later. Or, it may not. Though as someone tweeted this weekend, another similarly deposed right wing Fox firebrand, Bill O’Reilly, is still on the one-weekvacation he took more than a year ago.
notes from a chair 