The Truth About the Oscars

At their best, movies either reflect the truth about our lives or provide an escape from our lives. 

Both are necessary and, together, for me, they reflect the yin and yang of my sanity.

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And not just Shane and Ilya

But right now I’m doing a lot more yanging than I am yinging.

Meaning the push and pull between what’s real (Note: The yang) and fake (Note: The ying), aka which of those worlds I want to play in at any given moment, has become head-spinning at best.

The Oscar nominations were announced this week, an event I look forward to every year because it brings me back to a time of childhood innocence; when I thought winning would solve everything for me and I, in turn, would help solve the problems of the world.

And no, I’m not kidding.

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Help me Bill Pullman’s son — you’re my only hope

But they were upstaged by the continued crumbling of actual American freedoms on the streets of Minneapolis, supercharged to a head when masked ICE officers tackled and murdered a 37-year-old ICU nurse as he was trying to help a young woman they had knocked to the ground and pepper-sprayed.

Once the “supercharging” happened, a mere 24-hours after Sinners became the most Oscar-nominated film in Academy Awards history – well, I don’t know about you, but for me, it’s been hard to focus. 

Minneapolis
All ghouls

What to do —

Say the name of Alex Pretti over and over again and show and tell his story to anyone who will listen because, in my mind, unless we do at least that we will all be next?

Or –

Take some much-needed me time to discuss not only why there are now TEN best picture nominees instead of five (Note: Like day camp, everyone gets a participation trophy?), but how the hell F1 got on that list.

This is not to say that focusing on this year’s Oscar nominees is not reflective of the world at large and the various hot button issues faced in the U.S. in particular.

The two leading contenders alone are so timely they’re literally less than half a step away from prescient.

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Not letting the bastards win

Sinners is a brilliantly evocative dissection of white American vampirism  (Note: Both literally and figuratively) in one Jim Crow South community that was wrought so originally, disturbingly and even musically by writer-director Ryan Coogler that its crossed over into mainstream blockbuster status and will soon have earned over $400 million worldwide.

And Paul Thomas Anderson’s One Battle After Another, a black comedy, thriller, father-daughter story of a corrupt military hunting down Americans they don’t deem American enough, starting with brown-skinned immigrants and liberals, could literally be evidence that PTA has a crystal ball somewhere were it not partially based on Thomas Pynchon’s 1990 novel Vineland.

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Soon to be Oscar winner and part time psychic PTA

That book explored what happens to a small California town still steeped in freedom-loving 1960s counterculture during the anything but, and ultra-conservative, Reagan era of the 1980s.

Talk about art imitating life, life imitating art and the never-ending ouroboros of it all.

The sad truth of the matter is that like the 1960s Vietnam era, the government is still massaging the truth for the masses and asking us to believe that protesting governmental violence in the streets is a crime punishable by death (Note: I was a kid when Kent State happened but I still remember that Time Magazine cover of innocent college students being gunned down by a trigger-happy American military fed up with the audacity of those choosing to protest, or even be in the vicinity of one.

I would say never forget, but we forgot

What’s different now is that unlike that time, when we had to depend on a handful of intrepid still photographers or news cameras, anyone can record the goings-from every angle by merely pushing a button on their cell phone.  (Note: And do).

So instead of arguing the nuances of fact, the powers-that-be deny the reality of millions of pixels courtesy of thousands of Apple devices and tell us Alex Pretti was brandishing his hand gun when it’s clear as Reagan’s dye job that he was holding his iPhone up with one hand and gallantly using the other to help a woman in distress.

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It’s very this

Though if you’ve ever spent any time around ICU nurses, as I have in the last ten years, you’d know they’d pretty much help anyone.  Especially Alex, who spent many hundreds of hours at a Minneapolis V.A. hospital prolonging the lives of military men, not shooting them.

Lying, of course, is not limited to government men like Greg Bovino, our current U.S. Customs and Border Chief, who came out and gave a press conference before Alex Pretti’s body was cold, unequivocally stating Alex “..was brandishing a gun and planned to massacre law enforcement..” despite mountains of evidence to the contrary.

Many, many decades ago it was Pablo Picasso who also let the cat out of the bag about all of us creative types, big and small, when he famously proclaimed:

Art is the lie that tells the truth.

Guernica | Description, History, & Facts | Britannica
Look no further than his famous Guernica

Still, the very nature of the arts is that we make stuff in order to make people think, or give them relief from thinking too much.  We proudly tell you it’s a fictional interpretation of the truth so you can admire, or even loathe us, even more (Note: if that’s possible).

What we don’t do is make up a lie about the actual truth and then claim it is what literally happened. We’d never disrespect our audience that much.

Or, well, most of us wouldn’t.

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And if you do, watch out for Dakota Johnson

Because I can argue Sinners’ 16 Oscar nominations is not really an entirely true record, as the Academy of Motion Picture ARTS and Sciences so publicly claims.

All Above Eve (1950) the previous record-holder at 14 noms, along with Titanic (1977) and La La Land (2016), was released in an era where there was NO CATEGORY for either makeup and hairstyling  OR casting.

Now are you doing to tell me that Margo Channing’s hair and makeup and the casting of a young, unknown Marilyn Monroe practically stealing a scene from Bette Davis and the rest of the cast, would not be enough to land that film TWO more nominations in those categories?

All About Eve | Plot, Cast, Awards, & Facts | Britannica
… and it would have won both

I didn’t think so.

And that would at least make it a tie, at 16-16.

As A.I. emerges, with the power of our new MAGA tolerant/supporting Tech Oligarch class, my fear is that pretty soon we won’t be able to distinguish the subtle gray areas of issues far more important.

That The Lie will be The Art and it will Tell Everything… But the Truth.

And the majority of us will be onboard with it simply to survive.

Huntr/x – “Golden” (from KPop Demon Hunters)

2025: As It Was

Of course, every day of life is a gift. 

That becomes apparent once people your age start dying or you are personally touched by tragedy at too young an age. 

Or any age.

And who am I to argue with the idea that the meaning of life is to find your gift and show it to the world?

and I will!

Well, I could argue that. 

What if your particular gift is lying, cheating and generally wreaking havoc on the world, which in turn inspires others to do so and destroy it as we know it?

You see where this could be going.

If I let it.

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Mr. Whatsit is here to help

I should’ve known 2025 wasn’t going to be “all that” when at the end of its first week my cell phone started audibly blaring with warnings from the city of L.A. to evacuate my home because a nearby canyon suddenly went up in flames.

Of course, I already knew that.  My sister warned me five minutes earlier, my shrink had just called to warn me (Note: Yes, he knows where I live) and the TV happened to be on with footage of planes and helicopters dropping uncountable gallons of water all over the neighborhood.

Never a good sign.

The role of climate change in the catastrophic 2025 Los Angeles fires »  Yale Climate Connections
It’s hard to even imagine this really happened

Of course, my husband and I were lucky, so this day was, indeed, a gift. Our house survived and so did we.  Not so lucky were the hundreds of homes and people in other neighborhoods that didn’t make it.

Not much of a gift for them. 

I mention all this not to recount my worst day in 2025 or to prove that this year was cursed from the beginning and would prove to be so for anyone truly sane.

Instead, I bring it up to offer there is another way to look at it.

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brb getting out my second pair of glasses

Everyone reading this, and the billions more with the ability to still read it, survived and were gifted at least one more day. 

Probably more.

The question is, what we’ll do with them.

Just know, I HATE this kind of sentiment. 

These bromides of positivity.  This glass half-full sort of thinking.

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Don’t come to me with this!

But there was a time when I was convinced I also hated Brussel sprouts until Ina Garten instructed me how to douse them with olive oil, kosher salt and pepper and roast them in the oven at 400 degrees for about 30-35 minutes.  Since then they have become the house vegetable, sometimes with balsamic glaze and other times simply with fresh parsley and some additional sea salt.

Allowing me to know that even if everything else was shitty that day, at the very least I succeeded at not only eating my vegetables but actually enjoying them.

Which is more than I ever did during my first 25 five years of “gifted” existence. #SoMuchMoreHealthSoManyMoreGiftsToLive

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Way to go Chairy!

There is no point in us recapping the many disasters of 2025.  The school shootings, the affordability crisis, the cold-blooded murder of well known public figures, along with so many non-famous people who also have friends, families, loved one and talents, nee gifts.

And never mind the grifting of money from the unfortunate or unknowing, the worldwide bending (Note: though not breaking) to authoritarianism, the ravages of international war or the demonization of immigrants, nee anyone not white and Christian.

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And here she comes again

For a married gay guy with a very Jewish last name like myself, whose grandparents on both sides were immigrants, this is especially troubling. Even more so because I actually know and like not only Muslims and Somalis but non-whites of all sorts of colors from all over the world.

Going to one of the first mandatory integrated elementary schools in New York City in the sixties will do that to you.  As will growing up in most urban cities.  As will growing up anywhere and having parents who aren’t racists.

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This

Everyone gets treated exactly the same way.  Including the whitest of Christians.

That didn’t seem exactly progressive to me back then but I never would have predicted the world we have all been gifted for at least another day.

And yes, probably more.

That said, 2025 did have a few cool things. 

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Let’s get to the cool thing!

My favorite film was One Battle After Another, Paul Thomas Anderson’s brilliant black comedy/drama treatment of the times. I also thought Sinners was pretty damn good, as was a small indie film called The History of Sound.

On television, Netflix early in the year gave us the gift of the limited series, Adolescence, and wrapped up the year with a wonderful final season (Note: One more episode to go!) of Stranger Things. HBO Max started out the year with a riveting new show, The Pitt and ended it with the LGBTQ+ series I could have only dreamed of as a kid but never would have, that viral sensation known as Heated Rivalry.

Heated Rivalry Episode 5 Showcases the Power of Representation—Can It Help  Change the Game? - Fangirlish
Oh God am I a hockey fan now?

Now if only both companies would stop gobbling up other companies. Or selling out to other companies, or billionaires, or beefy politicians, and the entire planet would be a better place.

This entirely circumvents the subject of A.I. because seriously, I can’t right now…

Instead, let’s consider at least one happy couple who were gifted overtime in 2025 – Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce.  They’d better at least be happy in real life.

Taylor Swift Opens Up About Engagement to Travis Kelce, Ring
This has to be endgame. Please God.

As should the new mayor of NYC – Zohran Mamdani.  He’s got great ideas for my hometown AND he’s Muslim.  Imagine that!  Well, I can.  As can my very Jewish blood brother Mandy Patinkin, who can be seen here, with his wife, actress Kathryn Grody, making potato latkes with him.

It could be our new slogan for 2026.

Break Bread, Not Heads.

And yes, I know latkes are technically made with matzo meal, not bread.  Just think of it as a starting point. 

And a gift.

Duke Ellington – Auld Lang Syne