We All Have AIDS

This Monday, Dec. 1st is World AIDS Day.  It was started by two public information officers at the World Health Organization to raise awareness of the AIDS global pandemic and has been observed every Dec. 1 since it began in 1988.

But here is its official purpose as stated by the WHO, explained far better than I ever could.

The day is an opportunity for public and private partners to spread awareness about the status of the pandemic and encourage progress in HIV/AIDS prevention, treatment and care around the world. It has become one of the most widely recognized international health days and a key opportunity to raise awareness, commemorate those who have died, and celebrate victories such as increased access to treatment and prevention services.

AIDS Memorial Quilt honored around nation's capital
Including seeing panels of the AIDS quilt

Approximately 32 million people have died from AIDS-related illness and, in the eighties and nineties, a number of them were my friends, co-workers, acquaintances and peers. 

The fact that I somehow survived through that modern day Holocaust is a random stroke of luck I will never fully understand and not a day goes by where I don’t think of someone or something that reminds me of those times.

World AIDS Day 2025: Overcoming disruption, transforming the AIDS response
This is more than just a ribbon

I understand why this is not on the minds of most people and I’m thrilled that HIV-AIDS is not the death sentence it was when so many in my circle endured an unimaginable and truly horrible demise. 

At that time, the U.S. government, led by Ronald Reagan, turned its back on them in silence, ensuring its complicity with what amounted to the passive genocide of a significant number of young gay men who came of age around the same time that I did.  There were others affected – I.V. drug users, hemophiliacs – and soon many millions more in “third world” countries not as fortunate to have access to the advanced health care that the gay community led the world in demanding.

When people around you are dropping dead left and right it’s easy to demand because nothing else much matters.  And if I still sounds a little raw around this, well, yeah, it’s still personal for me.

And always will be.

Life was a party before Aids arrived in London'
This was our reality

That’s why it particularly cheesed me off when the Trump Administration this past week announced that its State Department was forbidding its employees and those receiving State Department grants from “publicly promoting World AIDS Day through any communication channels, including social media, media engagements, speeches or other public-facing messaging.”

Needless to say it also announced not a penny of U.S. government funds should be used in the commemoration.

Here comes that anger again…

Because…um…they can?

Because Trump withdrew America from the World Health Organization when he took office in January?

Because he thought the U.S. gave them too many millions and wanted to cut costs? 

Because other countries didn’t pay enough? 

What are we even doing??

Because he blamed them for Covid-19, putting a blot on his presidency and not supporting his many and vast conspiracy theories around that disease?

Choose one or all of the above.  But not none. 

Because the cruelty is the point.

Here is an article from the NY Times that lays it out pretty well.

Here’s two others from The Guardian if you can’t get behind the N.Y. Times paywall.

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/nov/27/awareness-days-events-trump

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/nov/27/world-aids-day

A State Department spokesperson makes the laughable claim that “awareness is not a strategy” in defending Trump’s actions. 

Anger Inside GIFs | Tenor
AGHHHHH

But if that’s the case how does it square with such Trump pronouncements as Leif Erickson Day, Anti-Communism Week, National Energy Domination Month and his proclamation declaring May 28, 2025 the 101st Anniversary of U.S. Border Patrol?

Clearly, a commemorative day or anniversary or week or month or year is in the eye of the declarer.

Too bad a viral infection is not.

Trump and Rumble are at the center of the global battle for free expression  - Washington Times
How they’d like the ribbon to be used

But this is the same guy who ended the global AIDS initiative started by George W. Bush, of all people, (PEPFAR), which is credited with saving more than 25 million lives from HIV since it began.

I’ll leave you all with the words uttered at the last AIDS march I attended, words that were coined by N.Y. activists in 1986, and posted beneath a pink triangle in direct reference to the Nazi era.

Silence = Death.

Andra Day – “Rise Up”

Giving Thanks

I had a birthday last week and am already behind on writing thank you notes to people who took me to dinner, bought me gifts or simply remembered.  

It’s never a chore to say it in person, at the moment, so that’s usually my go to.  But these days, more than ever, I think people also appreciate getting a note. 

Appreciation GIFs | Tenor
I guess a little glitter wouldn’t hurt

Sure, a text is okay. And an email is adequate.  But a hand-written note in an ever-growing, impersonal digital world?  Who does that anymore?

Not enough of us.

And by handwritten note I don’t mean giving A.I. the assignment of figuring it out for you.

Android Robot GIFs | Tenor
What did I do Chairy??

Better not to send it along at all.  

It’s the impolite social equivalent of regifting.  

Something about it WILL seem off to the reader even though you are sure it won’t.  They might not know you were helped along by something unhuman but they are likely to think your response is something less than human (Note: Aka real).  

Larry David Stare GIFs - Find & Share on GIPHY
It just…. won’t smell right

Which robs the gratitude of any true meaning.  Unless what you meant by it was to fulfill a social obligation that would otherwise have you come off as cold and unappreciative.

Or in old-fashioned parlance, raised by wolves.

Speaking of which, can you believe we live in a world where the president of the United States calls a female reporter Piggy out loud?

Miss Piggy Angry GIFs | Tenor
What’s that supposed to mean?

Perhaps you can.

What about admonishing her on camera with, Quiet, Piggy,, receiving no on-the-spot blowback from fellow journalists, and having the White House press secretary then publicly laud said POTUS for his frankness and openness?

Perhaps we should skip the thank yous and go straight to the I’m sorry(s).

Dr Evil Right GIFs - Find & Share on GIPHY
As if

In any event, it’s THANKSgiving time for MOST of us.  

And I selfishly prefer the former.

Because, at the end of the day, any reason for saying thank you should give any one of us who says it a warm and fuzzy feeling.

Since the very fact of doing it means that someone (Note: Or more than one) did something NICE for YOU.

It doesn’t have to be BIG.  

Or BIGLY.

Or HUUUUGE.

Just nice. 

Be Nice Gif GIFs | Tenor
it’s the least you can do

Imagine that when you’re eating your turkey.  

Or tofurkey.

Or simply taking it upon yourself to treat another person kindly for no reason at all other than common decency. And with no expectation of receiving anything in return.

Good Person GIFs | Tenor
Except maybe this sash

Not even a thank you note.

It will make receiving one all the more warm and fuzzy. An even more convincing confirmation that doing an act of kindness for someone else, one that they might even give you thanks for, doesn’t make you a chump.

Despite what you are seeing from the top.  On a weekly, and often daily, basis.

Pearls before swine, you know.

Golden Girls – “Thank You For Being A Friend”