Giving Thanks

I had a birthday last week and am already behind on writing thank you notes to people who took me to dinner, bought me gifts or simply remembered.  

It’s never a chore to say it in person, at the moment, so that’s usually my go to.  But these days, more than ever, I think people also appreciate getting a note. 

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I guess a little glitter wouldn’t hurt

Sure, a text is okay. And an email is adequate.  But a hand-written note in an ever-growing, impersonal digital world?  Who does that anymore?

Not enough of us.

And by handwritten note I don’t mean giving A.I. the assignment of figuring it out for you.

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What did I do Chairy??

Better not to send it along at all.  

It’s the impolite social equivalent of regifting.  

Something about it WILL seem off to the reader even though you are sure it won’t.  They might not know you were helped along by something unhuman but they are likely to think your response is something less than human (Note: Aka real).  

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It just…. won’t smell right

Which robs the gratitude of any true meaning.  Unless what you meant by it was to fulfill a social obligation that would otherwise have you come off as cold and unappreciative.

Or in old-fashioned parlance, raised by wolves.

Speaking of which, can you believe we live in a world where the president of the United States calls a female reporter Piggy out loud?

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What’s that supposed to mean?

Perhaps you can.

What about admonishing her on camera with, Quiet, Piggy,, receiving no on-the-spot blowback from fellow journalists, and having the White House press secretary then publicly laud said POTUS for his frankness and openness?

Perhaps we should skip the thank yous and go straight to the I’m sorry(s).

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As if

In any event, it’s THANKSgiving time for MOST of us.  

And I selfishly prefer the former.

Because, at the end of the day, any reason for saying thank you should give any one of us who says it a warm and fuzzy feeling.

Since the very fact of doing it means that someone (Note: Or more than one) did something NICE for YOU.

It doesn’t have to be BIG.  

Or BIGLY.

Or HUUUUGE.

Just nice. 

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it’s the least you can do

Imagine that when you’re eating your turkey.  

Or tofurkey.

Or simply taking it upon yourself to treat another person kindly for no reason at all other than common decency. And with no expectation of receiving anything in return.

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Except maybe this sash

Not even a thank you note.

It will make receiving one all the more warm and fuzzy. An even more convincing confirmation that doing an act of kindness for someone else, one that they might even give you thanks for, doesn’t make you a chump.

Despite what you are seeing from the top.  On a weekly, and often daily, basis.

Pearls before swine, you know.

Golden Girls – “Thank You For Being A Friend”

World Series Sequel

As a little boy in the Bronx, I loved the New York Yankees and collected baseball cards.   And not only for the sugary flat slabs of gum enclosed in each pack. 

Though they were sooooooo goooooood.

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Life was good

These were the days of Mickey Mantle playing in the outfield and, even to this day, I could give you the starting lineup verbatim. 

It’s funny what random minutiae you will always remember from way back when and what important stuff from yesterday, last week or, even Election Night, 2024, so many of us are able to willingly forget.

But hey –

THE L.A. DODGERS JUST WON THE WORLD SERIES!!!!

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You know LA loves a sequel!

IT’S THE FIRST TIME ANY TEAM HAS WON TWO YEARS IN A ROW IN 25 YEARS!! (Note:  And the last time it happened the team was the NY Yankees – a three year winner from 1998-2000).

YAY FOR US ANGELENOS AND YAY FOR ME, A NATIVE NEW YORKER AND LONGTIME CALIFORNIA TRANSPLANT!!!

I might not have a golden toilet, a remodeled marble bathroom or the world’s largest ballroom in the offing (Note: Even though I and U are paying for all of them literally, and, in oh so many other ways)  but I do have TWO winning streaks to my credit.

No LOSER am I.

Kamala and Hillary, aside.

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I can’t talk about that right now

I recently found out my husband of 38 years is a bit of a baseball fan and enjoys a good World Series game, especially when the Dodgers are playing. 

Who knew?

It’s not like I have any leftover bandwidth or RAM to integrate that AND the threat to democracy in a mind that, for whatever reason, has involuntarily chosen to recall the starting lineup to the 1965 NY Yankees.

Joe Pepitone, Bobby Richardson, Tony Kubeck, Clete Boyer, Roger Maris, Mickey Mantle, Roy White/Tom Tresh, Elston Howard and Whitey Ford.

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There they are!

And you thought I was joking.

 (Note: Full disclosure – I did forget Tom Tresh’s last name but knew it began with a “T,” and eventually it came to me).

As proudly petty gay men in certain moments, our household is particularly thrilled that this year the achievements of a multi-racial, multi-ethnic group of professional men, many of them immigrants, in one of the most diverse cities in the most populous state in America, has publicly shown some of what our adopted home town is made of.

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Kike Hernandez, we love you

Perhaps it’s even fleetingly proven to the White House that we’re not a “trash heap,” “rife with crime” and “disrespectful police,” or a “place in need of liberation,” all POTUS quotes from this year.

It won’t change the fact that just months ago he sent trucks full of  masked ICE agents into the city to start a ruckus no one asked for.  Or the fact that one such disruption in June was about to take place at Dodger Stadium itself.

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NO NO NO

Still, federal agents in tactical gear were denied entry into the stadium and its parking lots by Dodger management. The latter’s quest to chase excellence and not immigrants, and support its neighborhood instead of the cos-playing “fake soldiers” seeking to invade it, came at a particularly stressful moment for the city.

But rather than shrink away from a fight to be their best, they chose to stand up against members of an armed militia that, at the time, could easily have been perceived as infinitely more powerful.

…And guess what?

They won.

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Go Dodgers!

 And the real “invaders,” the fake soldiers, turned around and left without incident.

A big victory for the city and a bigger one for the Dodgers – or, as we say, Dodger Blue.

Not the biggest victory we’d have all year but, in some ways, just as significant.

Maybe even more so.

Pia Toscana – Star Spangled Banner (at Game 7 World Series 2025)